Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:56pm
Maybe that's the other difference: there are no school buses in Sweden. Most kids either walk or take the public bus/tram. Some are driven to school if the parents have chosen to send the kids to a school outside the neighborhood, but it's not particularly common.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 12:56pm

So- you disagree that because a child is exposed to more children nearly every day in daycare that they are exposed to more germs nearly every day as well, and therefore at increased risk of contracting more frequent illnesses, due to this exposure?

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:02pm

Uh- because they were all in a *group care situation* which is the whole point here.

Wytchy

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Registered: 04-04-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:04pm

In addition to my children benefitting so much from the time and mental energy I have for them due to my ptwoh (10 hours per week vs. 40 hours), I also think my husband gets more out of their childhoods, and the children get more out of him, because I can take care of so many house-hold related tasks (tasks beyond simple cleaning such as what a housekeeper could do) with complete ease. If he and I had a sahwife (or "househusband" that was as gifted as we women are), then I would be interested in woh fulltime.

Of course, many people report such picture perfect dual fulltime career families on this board, yet one after the other on this board get divorced over the years. Curious. With as educated as many of the sahm's are on this board, I hardly believe it's because the sahms are too dependent to leave a bad marriage and wohms are simply more independent.

I just get the impression that many people create a positively distorted picture (on either side) for the sake of debate, which is why I rarely come around here anymore.

Angel

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:05pm
No. Because not every child in daycare *is* "exposed to more children nearly every day" than children of SAHPs.
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Registered: 11-03-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:08pm

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LOW. REALLY REALLY LOW.

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:09pm
Not really. We did the mobile mechanic thing, but shop ownership frankly isn't very profitable because of the overhead. Right now he's buying into a partnership with the company he works for, but he's not good at the business end of things so it is good that he partners with someone who is. He doesn't enjoy plain old repair very much so a shop just wouldn't be his thing.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:11pm

Let me put this as simplistically as I can. I would rather not put my children through unnecessary trauma while going through that developmental milestone. That means, I'd rather not force them into situations that they aren't comfortable with or aren't ready for when they are this young just because I have to be at work, if I don't *have* to be at work. If you either don't have that problem with your kids or don't mind doing that, that's your call. For me, I just don't see any problem with being there for my children when they need/want me at this young an age and would rather be there and have them *not* have that level of anxiety.

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:13pm

"Of course, many people report such picture perfect dual fulltime career families on this board, yet one after the other on this board get divorced over the years. Curious. With as educated as many of the sahm's are on this board, I hardly believe it's because the sahms are too dependent to leave a bad marriage and wohms are simply more independent."


I guess you haven't read my posts griping about my husband's lack of involvement in running the household.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 1:13pm

Not really. I'd just rather my kids not ingest pigeon poop, eat rocks, poke around in the mystery goo and then try to lick it off etc. Remember- mine are 2yr and 1yr. Playgrounds aren't really their thing just yet.

Wytchy

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