Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:16pm
So true. However, I still find it easier and more preferential to tag team.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:16pm

What

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:16pm

CIO doens't work for all kids. Ds didn't sleep through the night until he was 2.5. (years, not months). There were times he was up, literally, 9-10x a night. We tried CIO. Didn't work.

Once we got tubes in his ears? started sleeping through the night ... sigh. Wish we'd known sooner.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:17pm
I must say that my DH WOH and he doesn't miss our children's childhood. Of course I spend more time with them than he does but it doesn't mean he misses anything. He might miss our youngest eating lunch, or playing outside on the playset, or maybe he crying because she wants another cookie. Other than that...not one thing. He calls 1 or 2 times a day and has a chat with her and when our DS comes home he calls to see how his day was. I can honestly say that he doesn't miss anything because he has less time with them. Now if I WOH I would miss most of their childhood. He doesn't have the crazy schedule that I had. That is why he still WOH and I don't. So while I don't disagree that SAH get to participate more in their children's daily activities, I disagree that the WOH misses out on their child's childhood.

 

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:18pm
I'm glad that it worked so well for you. I just dont know if that applies across the board.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:20pm

Oh goodness are you serious? These are medical issues that do not apply to anything I am speaking of. I can't even believe that you would even go there. It isnt self righteous at all. When a child has a medical issue that is totally different. In my SIL case my nephew woke during the night because he could. He knew she would come in and lay with him or let him play a bit. Again, she has no one to blame but herself for that nonsense.

Edited to add: I think I clearly stated that the child decides he needs to be up at 2am. I think that should be clear that a child with a medical issue isn't deciding that he needs to be up at that hour.

Edited 2/8/2006 2:20 pm ET by snoopyme




Edited 2/8/2006 2:23 pm ET by snoopyme

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:21pm

Exactly.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:21pm
Why are you getting up with a child? Is there a medical issue or is he just a light sleeper?

 

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:25pm

Why is there no driving required? Do you think a SAHM stays in all day?

"I don't think its *harder* as a WOHM per se ... just different." ITA.

It's funny though, sometimes after a really rough night where DH and I both were up all night, he'd feel sorry for me being left with the cranky tired kids while he "gets to just go into work".

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:25pm
It's also not the greatest option for people who live in apartments or very close to neighboring houses. I had a crazy neighbor threaten me because the crying was bugging him. We moved ASAP, but that's not always feasible.

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