Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:48pm

"And for SAHMs there isn't driving involved and presumably a WOHM has to drive herself to work. "


huh?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:51pm

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I have never said otherwise and based on this board I know I am uncommon.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:52pm
Oh. I thought when you posted "Wouldn't a sahp have more opportunity to reduce the sleep deprived state than someone who was at work all day?" It was more of a general thing. But if you were only speaking for yourself, then I understand.
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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:53pm

I wish I knew!

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:55pm

***Because many people have more than two children, or have children more than only 12 months apart, and therefore might have very little children in the household for years upon years?***

So what?

***Because you can still enjoy your children and WOH?***

Sure you can. But I can tell you that I enjoy alot more time with my children than I would were I to be WOH.

***I want the best possible job for me. You act like all jobs are fungible, and work is a necessary evil. That's certainly not true for me, or for everyone.***

First of all, I must give you credit. I've never heard anyone apart from myself and my english professor actually *use* the word fungible. Second of all- not all of us need to break through glass ceilings or attain partnership in exclusive practices etc. in order to feel that we are good at what we do, that we are making a difference, that we are 'doing something with our lives' etc. I certainly don't view work as a necessary evil- far from it. I just put a higher priority and value on the interaction that I enjoy with my children than I do the time I might have otherwise spent in a corporate office, hospital or whatever else I might have done or might do in the future.

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 2:59pm
I've debated sleep issues vigorously on this board before, don't feel like going there now.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:00pm

I'm sure they will when they are of an age where they *will* remember it. It's not like they're never going to be out of my sight LOL! I just don't see why it would be at all necessary or beneficial to them to have them in a ft othercare situation if I were WOH at this young an age when we all prefer this arrangement. Right now DD loaths othercare (well, aside from my mother that is LOL! Even taking DH into consideration, I think DD prefers her to anyone else in the world (including *me* sometimes LOL!)

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:02pm

"I don't see anything beneficial with forcing seperation before a child is ready and comfortable with it."


The benefit was for me and the family as a whole - DH and I got to continue WOH, which as you've said would not be a benefit for you and your family.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:02pm

She's probably just reading you like I've been reading you- we've discussed before your writing style with regard to what you claim are sincere questions that I (and others) have thought come off as rhetorical assumptions etc. It's a style thing. You're apparantly not as clear as you think you are. Or you *are* and just like yanking peoples chains. Either way- it's not unreasonable for her to be wondering what your motives are. They are almost always the source of our disagreements after all.

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:07pm

<<However unless it is a chronic issue than I don't know what a WOHP would care about being sleep deprived. Children shouldn't be taken to DC or left with other care when they are sick. >>


I am not sure I am following this correctly but are you asking why a wohp would be sleep deprived if their child was sick and staying home from school or dc?

PumpkinAngel

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