Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:09pm

Your plan of SAH when the kids are under 3 and then going back to WOH doesn't work very well if you have children 10 years apart - that was my point.


"I just put a higher priority and value on the interaction that I enjoy with my children than I do the time I might have otherwise spent in a corporate office, hospital or whatever else I might have done or might do in the future."


But that's the difference right there - you care much much less about any paid work you might do in the future than you do about being AH with your children (I still didn't see your answer to my question about where you and your two children go during the work week....).

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Registered: 09-08-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:10pm

The sleep when they sleep philosophy only worked with baby #1.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:11pm

Aren't well checkups monthly when a child is small and then go to yearly?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:14pm

I agree, but wouldn't their first responsibility be their own children?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:20pm

Grocery store, drug store, post office, playgroup, kindermusik class for younger DS, tumbling for older DS, OB visits, preschool (as soon as DS starts next year), etc, etc, etc.

These *are* my responsibilities. Do you think it is acceptable to let everything that *needs* to get done go, just because the kid/s were up at night?

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:22pm
Sure, I just cart along my all my childless SAH friends to the park every day.
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:24pm

Whoever said I tried to remove all negativity? Certainly not me. I just prefer to have a view of and greater control over the situation than I would if I were just dropping them off and going to work. That way I can read my children so as to know when they are ready for something- whether they're dealing OK with it, and when they really need me to step in and "rescue" them. Yes- it's a normal part of growing up, but I don't see it as having any benefit when it's forced as opposed to something the child shows readiness for. (Like potty training- I don't believe in forcing a child to potty train- I believe in training when the child shows signs of readiness and move at the child's comfort/pace.) MHO.

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:26pm

It was a general question.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:31pm

From what I've seen and experienced there's a huge difference as far as infants/toddlers goes. Whereas the situations that I've been in with my kids I and the other parents have monitored our children for things like sippy cup sharing, poking/prodding other children's faces etc. the daycare settings haven't done so simply because they have too many kids to all watch like that at the same time. They try to keep things like sippies etc. seperate, but it doesn't generally work out well LOL! They also haven't tended to be as cautious with things like mouthing community toys etc. (I don't let my children 'eat' toys other kids also chew/drool on. Call me a germaphobe.) So I'd say there's a pretty good difference there.

Also- remember that most moms of infants/toddlers don't tend to take their kids to play at the park (not around here anyway). I think it's more a difference between older kids (who play at parks less directly supervised by their parents in the immediate vicinity) and that of moms of younger kids (who are generally right there and hands-on because- well- they have to be given the age of the kid.)

Wytchy

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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 3:32pm

"You don't think a sahp has a greater opportunity to make up sleep than a wohp who is at work all day?"


Can you give some specifics of when you think a SAHP gets more opportunity to make up sleep than the WOHP?

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