Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Okay, okay....I will give you equal opportunities in the state of California.
PumpkinAngel
Then I wouldn't be at work.
PumpkinAngel
I think both, but honestly I'm too tired to look it up right now :-).
Uh, wrong. She asked:
"Do you think the majority of kids in a group daycare setting have a SAHM or WOHM?"
And I responded that it depended on the school. I was pointing out that in many "group daycare" situations, like the one my child was in, there were as many if not more children of SAHPS.
Gosh, you are the condescending one, aren't you?
Susan
Yes- they are. However the allegation was made, if you backtrack a bit, that if a child is in othercare from the beginning that separation anxiety will not affect them as they'd view the experience as routine/normal. I was merely stating that that isn't the case given that separation anxiety is a normal developmental milestone which has little if anything to do with childcare arrangements. (Although parents can choose to either force the issue in regard to separation anxiety and make a child deal with it on a regular basis or they can be with the child and smooth over their anxiety for the most part *by* being there most of the time.) The child will still have separation anxiety, but one can make the experience either more or less frequent depending on what a child's care arrangements may be.
Wytchy
I know that I, as an adult who has had very few sleeping issues in her 34 years on this earth, wake up frequently during the night. Noises, needing to pee, being thirsty, whatever. Why wouldn't a child do the same? Why would that be acceptable for an adult but not for a child?
The thing I hear touted is that children need to learn to soothe themselves back to sleep. And sure, I can get behind that to an extent. But even I get back to sleep quicker and deeper if I can reach under the covers and put my leg next to dh's. Or spoon against him. Or put my head on his chest. Or hold his hand. And I that makes *me*, an adult, feel better and get sooner, better sleep, why wouldn't/couldn't/shouldn't that be true for a child?
I tolerate it for me; I should tolerate it for my child.
Note: This isn't necessarily in response to your post, but I thought of it while reading your post, so I'm posting it here.
I don't see much of that as a need that has to be done TODAY. You have control over much of that yourself.
Unfortunately, if I don't do my work responsibilities, there are, literally, 10-30 people that suffer. And could potentially mean millions of dollars lost.
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