Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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<<Well we definately have a different way of handling things. I think most WOHP know what their day will look like the day before. >>
Yes, that's obvious.
PumpkinAngel
And some preschools run from 8:30 to 2:30. Wow, six hours to catch up on sleep.
If you can't leave your child for a playdate, that's a problem YOU have created. I never had a problem leaving my 2yo for a two hour playdate.
You've never heard of a "mother's helper"? A young teen (or tween) who helps out while Mom is actually in the house? I've hired one many a time.
The fact that you fail to take advantage of these options doesn't mean they don't exist.
***You don't take your kids places by yourself?***
Sure I do- if I can keep them in the double stroller or if it's an enclosed/safe/superviseable area.
***Of course, I also never worried about the occasional germ as I have witnessed that the earlier the kids got through the colds du jour of our area the less sick they were once school started (which is actually preferable in my mind as I think it is important for them to not miss too much school).***
What is preferable IMO is to avoid the greater risk of serious complications by having a young infant contract unnecessary illness. Considering that a good friend of mine lost her son to RSV and I've known other moms who have dealt with hospitalizations etc. of young infants due to complications of what are benign illnesses for older children, I tended to avoid exposing my babies to illness/germs whenever possible.
***It is the kids of those hyper-vigilant mothers who are missing weeks of school dealing with all the illnesses because they were purelled to within an inch of their lives as little ones.***
Having seen what I've seen, I'd just be glad those kids were alive to *be* in school- out sick or not. And frankly, I think it's just disgusting if a mother *wouldn't* be vigilant about hand washing (and purell when good old fashioned soap/water weren't available.) I'm a believer in personal hygeine. Not to the hyper extreme, but to a healthy level that allows the kids to have fun while being mindful of how sickness is passed along.
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/hand-washing/HQ00407
Wytchy
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I'm not sure what you are asking here.
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Why would it need to be a person?
PumpkinAngel
My kids may call for Mommy, but there really is no need to wake me when DH is more than capable of caring for them when they are sick. They get over that Mommy isn't coming in their room in about 10 seconds.
"Well you said that you tend to let your children tell you who they want in the middle of the night. What if they want you during the day?"
I don't think that was me.
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***And some preschools run from 8:30 to 2:30. Wow, six hours to catch up on sleep.***
And more than that DON'T. Not one single preschool in our area runs that long. My DS kindergarten doesn't last that long. Even full day kindergarten only runs 9:15-3:30. You left out many of us have more than 1 child. What would you like me to do with that one?
***If you can't leave your child for a playdate, that's a problem YOU have created. I never had a problem leaving my 2yo for a two hour playdate.***
Not a problem, just my style of parenting. What if the child that was up the night before is the one I am home with? Think I am going to send a child that was up a few times during the night to a friends house? No.
***You've never heard of a "mother's helper"? A young teen (or tween) who helps out while Mom is actually in the house? I've hired one many a time.***
Lat time I checked 9 months out of the year those tweens and teens are in school. So you might have a point the other 3 months. Again, that isn't the problem. If my kids know I am home they will want me when an issue arises.
***The fact that you fail to take advantage of these options doesn't mean they don't exist.***
The fact that a WOHP doesn't use their lunch hour to sleep or stay at the office later while the child is in DC doesn't mean they can't either.
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Well, then I guess I am on the disgusting list.
PumpkinAngel
Again I will state. Different strokes for different folks.
I have to ask. Your nanny costs $40K a year and your kids are in school full time?
Edited 2/8/2006 5:19 pm ET by snoopyme
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