Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:34pm

You aren't *seriously* comparing that to the studies done by various groups regarding group childcare settings and increased illness are you? Seriously?

Wytchy

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:43pm
Again as I stated to PA...I think sick children should be home with a parent. Different strokes for different folks.

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:45pm

It is your fault. Sorry but if your child wakes during the night for no reason and you do not teach that child to soothe themselves back to sleep without your help it is your fault that you are up at night.

May I ask what your theory is that makes my statement Bullcrap?

 

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:47pm
Most professional people have schedule that that have set for the day. Appts are made in advance. Most professionals know what the next day will be like.

 

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:51pm

Because many adults can't simply soothe themselves back to sleep at night. Why should we expect that of children? Especially very young children?

Because not all children are capable of soothing themselves to sleep at night.

Your theory is bullcrap.

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Registered: 11-03-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:52pm

Have you held most professional jobs? Gee, didn't know you had such wide, varying experience.

My appts for the day aren't set. Dh's arent. I can name hundreds of people who don't know in advance what their day will entail.

While I'm sure it is possibly for some, many even, it isn't for all. Or even most.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:54pm

***i dont see how sah prevents the parent from at least at times having to force the seperation.***

IMO there is a difference between 'at times' having to force seperation and that of *every day for 8+hrs* having to force the seperation.

***with all of my kids there have been things i have needed/wanted to do that was inappropriate for them to attend, and with each additional child there have been more things.***

Of course. Personally I try to do what I need/want to do either with them, after they go to bed (girls night out etc.) or when DH is home spending time with them. Of course there are times when that's not possible, so I just take them with me. What are some things that one might *need* to attend that they could not bring along their children if need be? (

***i have immensely enjoyed my children since i became a sahm, but no more than i did when i was a wohm.***

I don't doubt that. All I am saying is that most SAHM's (with children under school age) tend to be able to spend more time with them. Not that they enjoy them more- just that they have more time *to* enjoy with them.

***and i dont know how many hours of playing trains it really takes for a kid to be satisfied, but i know how long my patience to play trains is, and it didnt change when i became a sahm.***

ROFL ;)

***if i were to go back to work tomorrow the biggest stress i think i would encounter would be how to chauffer kids around.***

The after school sitter/nanny, many childcare centers have after school programs with activity shuttles etc. :)

***so maybe i sah because it makes chauffering the kids around easier - im just kidding there.***

LOL! ;) I know. Personally after the kids reach school age I don't see any difference between SAH and WOH provided the hours are pretty much the same as the kids (as many jobs are). But I do know what you mean- I have enough things to do that I don't need another 40+hrs of my week taken up with other commitments if I don't need to. ;)

Wytchy

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:55pm
You jsut contridicted every health professional in the world. I stand by what I said. Children should be taught to soothe themselves back to sleep. Adults that can't soothe themselves were obviously never taught.


Edited 2/8/2006 7:55 pm ET by snoopyme

 

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:56pm

If it is a chronic issue then I would say medical care needs to be addressed.

What do you mean by that? You mean if a child has an asthmatic attack in the middle of the night, the parents should stay home from work the next day? To what end, other than unemployment?

Karen


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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 7:56pm
Well then you two should just flip a coin.

 

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