Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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"The thing I hear touted is that children need to learn to soothe themselves back to sleep. And sure, I can get behind that to an extent. But even I get back to sleep quicker and deeper if I can reach under the covers and put my leg next to dh's. Or spoon against him. Or put my head on his chest. Or hold his hand. And I that makes *me*, an adult, feel better and get sooner, better sleep, why wouldn't/couldn't/shouldn't that be true for a child?"
I agree with you completely. Sometimes I feel very guilty that I have a warm body next to me to help me fall back asleep (being pg, due next month, I am up a LOT to pee, etc) while the little ones just have to deal. They do very well alone, but it still makes me feel sad sometimes.
****And if you let them cry? for 15, 30, 45 minutes? for nights on end? and they still don't sleep? what then? Guess that's my fault too.****
Never in my life have I heard of a small child do that. However yes you do let them cry for hours if need be. No it wouldn't be your fault. It would be a medical condition. If your child cried all night long for days I would definately tell you to seek medical attention. From what I have read....insomnia has a reason. It is either stress related or an illness.
Edited 2/8/2006 8:46 pm ET by snoopyme
***In addition to my children benefitting so much from the time and mental energy I have for them due to my ptwoh (10 hours per week vs. 40 hours)***
But is that a function of your WOH specifically or merely taking 10hrs a week for yourself? Is there a difference for you between whether you were WOH 10hrs versus doing something *else* for that same 10hrs? Just curious ;) Frankly I think a 10hr/wk WOH gig would be really nice. :)
***I also think my husband gets more out of their childhoods, and the children get more out of him, because I can take care of so many house-hold related tasks (tasks beyond simple cleaning such as what a housekeeper could do) with complete ease.***
Oh I absolutely understand that one.
***If he and I had a sahwife (or "househusband" that was as gifted as we women are), then I would be interested in woh fulltime.***
LOL! Personally I wouldn't. I'd rather have that time with my kids. :) Now- if we were talking school age? Sure- I could go for that LOL! Not sure which I'd prefer- a "housewife" or a "househusband" though....... *pondering* LOL! ;)
***Of course, many people report such picture perfect dual fulltime career families on this board, yet one after the other on this board get divorced over the years. Curious.***
I haven't noticed on the board, but it is a trend I've noticed IRL. It *is* rather curious.
***I just get the impression that many people create a positively distorted picture (on either side) for the sake of debate, which is why I rarely come around here anymore.***
I think that's probably human nature to an extent. We don't like to air our dirty laundry in public. Might make for an interesting thread all on its own though... ("What *don't* you like about your situation" or some such ;)
Wytchy
Did you miss the clarification that daycare= group care?
Wytchy
How so? Are you one of those people? Is it an inaccurate observation? (I honestly don't know).
Wytchy
I can get on board with that. I could nap at this stage of my kids life if I wanted/needed to. There were also times I couldnt.
FTR, I dont really "get" the nap at work thing that has bee tossed around. I know I for one couldnt do that. I need my bed, my jammies, a dark room, etc.. to sleep. No, naps while WOH are no more a given than naps while SAH.
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