Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:14pm
I think she was referring to the fact that I had originally stated "kids in daycare..." but later clarified to PNJ that I was referring to large group care (not *all* daycare options) when I made my statement and that I *should* have been more clear.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:14pm

Yes. If my child was dry, fed, not sick, I would let him or her cry. They have to learn how to sleep on their own and get back to sleep on their own.

Edited 2/8/2006 9:15 pm ET by snoopyme




Edited 2/8/2006 9:16 pm ET by snoopyme

 

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:15pm
So do you think it's because of your superior parenting skills (as you have alluded to over and over) that they slept through the night so easily, or is it possible that children are not all the same?
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:16pm
I'm wondering where you get your information.. I mean, of the many different parenting philosophies and pediatricians out there, statistically very few advocate CIO.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:19pm
No I havent alluded to being superior. I just disagree when parents say their child won't sleep through the night. Children learn that if they cry at night mom or dad will come. It was hard for me to let my children cry but I knew it would be in their best interest to be able to figure out how to go back to sleep on their own. I think it takes a lot of patience with some children. I am thankful that my children were relatively easy to teach this to. However every parent can do it, it just takes time and a lot of patience.

 

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:20pm

Basically speaking a child that has a lower threshold for stimuli. A high needs child more often than not *will* have sleep issues that have nothing to do with bad parenting. Here is an article that glosses over how high-needs children are different than others WRT sleeping.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070900.asp

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:22pm
I do support CIO somewhat, but I'm not sure I could handle that much crying.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:25pm
That sounds like a medical condition. My son was very similar to that. He would cry when I laid him down at night, but within 5 minutes or so he would sleep. He slept with us for about 6 months. He needed that extra snuggle time. However that was the solution to the problem. When I felt he was old enough we moved him to his crib. He cried at first but got over it quickly. Our pediatrician told us that because he was born at 36 weeks and he was very large he was used to being bundled tightly and just needed that extra closeness. Our DD was the exact opposite. Again I found the solution to get them to sleep all night long. We all benefit from it. The solution for some here may be co sleeping, who knows?

 

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:26pm

***I was thinking about when my kids were that little as well and I could never catch them to wash their hands before they touched their mouths/noses and etc on any regular basis.***

When I carry one and hold the others hand, I'm kinda right there. It's not an issue of catching them. I don't just let my kids run loose unless they're in an enclosed/safe area that is absolutely supervised. Call me paranoid, but I think 2yr olds and younger require mostly constant supervision.

***Don't their immune system grow and are better able to handle being exposed to different germs, by being exposed to different germs?***

To an extent, yes. But very young children (newborns most of all, infants, and to some extent toddlers) are at increased risk of serious (even life-threatening) complications from such early exposure. Preschoolers, young grade schoolers, even healthy older toddlers aren't as much of a concern. But the very young (as well as the very old) are considered 'high risk' for complications. (Why do you think that they advise and reserve flu vaccines for children under 2 and the caregivers of said children?)

***Ah, that's what I thought it was. But it's not in our doctor's office that I see because our ped used soap and water in the sink in the room.***

Around here all the medical offices/hospitals have a dispenser in the rooms (that I've seen anyway- and I've seen quite a few LOL)

***Actually I have been reading a couple of different experiences on the board and they don't seem to agree with you line of thinking.***

You've been reading the close sibling board here? Funny I just posted the question the other day and got the answers I told you.

***I have friends who have twins and they have met us at the park or wherever.***

Oh sure- I'd meet a friend with the kids at the park, no problem. But I'm not about to turn them loose at this age without a helper there with me. If I were close friends with someone I knew could and wouldn't mind lending a supervising hand, then yeah- sure- no problem. But not by myself! LOL!

Wytchy

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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:28pm
I'm trying to understand what makes you so sure of that. Do you have some notion that parents of kids who won't sleep through the night didn't already try that?

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