Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:28pm
We were very lucky it wasn't that bad. My nephew was older and it was horrible. My SIL would sit on the phone with me just for the support. I think the longest ours cried was about an hour. Every night it was less.

 

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:29pm

OMG! Someone who understands! :):):) LOL! Did you ever get the feeling that you were 'The Only One' who was in that situation? LOL! I keep asking all the boards with close sibs and everyone I *know* with close sibs thinking there's *got* to be some magic trick I'm not 'getting' LOL! All I get is the 'keep 'em in the stroller or bring a friend' advice LOL! ;)

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:29pm

That is completely untrue. There are plenty of health professionals in the world who do NOT support the idea of crying it out/self soothing for children.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:30pm

I cannot imagine anyone letting their child cry for hours on end just to try to *teach* them to self soothe. Thats just cruel.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:32pm
No I think it was tried, however I think they gave up too soon. Other than a medical issue I don't see why one would get up with a child that is old enough to sleep on their own. What are the benefits of it? What does the parent or child gain from it?

 

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:32pm
Ha, spoken from someone whose babies slept through the night early on. Trust me, I tried everything to get my two boys to sleep through the night but they just wouldn't. They just would not self-soothe. My older dd, OTOH, was able to self soothe. Unless you've been in my shoes, you have no right to pass judgement on why my babies weren't able to sleep through the night on their own.
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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:33pm
Why is it cruel? What do you or your child gain from getting up several times a night to rock your child back to sleep?

 

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:34pm

This is what I said: "What I am saying isn't that WOHP's (whether those who have a SAH or a WOH spouse) are missing out on their children's childhoods. What I am saying is merely that a SAHP tends to spend more time with their kids (at least before they enter into school etc.) and if one spends more *quantity* of time with the kids, one tends to have more opportunity to interact and engage those children simply because one is with them." and that's the best and most clear way I can get my point across. Sorry if that isn't good enough.

Wytchy

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:34pm
So, tell me, what happens when those methods don't work? How was I supposed to get rid of the gas that was frequently waking my sons up at night? Are you now a doctor? Because my pediatrician was not able to help me either - he told me, some babies just have to outgrow it. Mine eventually did.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:35pm
So, if you way doesn't work, they didn't do it right. Ok. I guess we will have to agree to disagree. I can't comprehend the philosophy that there is only one right way, and if it doesn't work the other person must be doing it wrong. Very self righteous, at least IMO.

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