Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:50pm
I am very sorry for your loss. That is a horrible thing to happen to a family.

 

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:53pm

Chuck E Cheese is safer than a playground? YUCK! That place is FULL of germs! And gotta love their security. We went there for my niece's birthday right after Christmas. I left early with my younger two, while my older two stayed. My parents took them home and they never even checked to make sure they belonged with my parents.

I'd rather a playground anyway - too much chaos in CEC and it's much harder to see where your children are, esp if they go up in those ceiling tubes. I'll take fresh air any day. BTW, I have four kids - the oldest is six. I take them to the playground, by myself, all the time.

I have a friend who is pregnant with her seventh child - the oldest is 8 y/o. Yes, 8 y/o! I almost fell over when I saw her with, at the time, her five kids at the Dollar Store. If there's a will, there is a way.

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:54pm

But you already said that you would have let them cry for hours if need be. Again, I just see that as harsh, and unnecessary.

Sometimes children need you just because they need you. Is that so hard to understand?

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:57pm

***Wouldn't a sahp have more opportunity to reduce the sleep deprived state than someone who was at work all day?***

Some might. It really all depends on how many kids the sahp has and whether they take naps at the same time. Oh- and whether or not the length of the naps, assuming the sahp takes one as well, is long enough to make a difference. (Personally if I can't sleep for 2hrs I do better to not even try because I feel *worse*.)

Of course, some WOHP's might also be able to catch naps- some employers are even starting to recognize the benefits of being able to nap on ones break/lunch and even *encourage* it. If only my little "employers" were so understanding ;)

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:57pm

I haven't finished reading through this thread, so maybe someone else pointed this out. There have been studies that show that kids who attend daycare are less likely to be sick as often when they start school, than kids who have SAHMs. Why? Because they develop their immune systems earlier on. It ends up evening out a few years into elementary school.

My kids are healthy with no medical issues so I don't personally stress about germs. Why are you so worried about germs? Frankly, I'd rather my kids be sick now, rather than when they start school. But fortunately, for the most part, other than the 24-hr stomach bug that hits us every year, my kids are rarely sick other than a common cold.

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:58pm

...And individual adults and their sleep requirements...

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 9:59pm
Again, spoken from someone who has never had to listen to their baby cry for hours on end, night after night. And still not be able to fall asleep...
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:01pm

*Chuckle* The grass is always greener I guess. Some sleep deprived days I'd give *anything* to be able to sit in an office and stare out into space without having to run around playing referee, changing bottoms, cleaning up messes, entertaining etc.

Wytchy

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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:01pm
This is REALLY making me laugh! As a parent who *did* use the Ferber/CIO method with my dd, and it worked gloriously, just as it apparently did with your two kids, I know it can work for some. However, when my next two babies came along, it just *did not* work. Plain and simple. Trust me, we gave it lots and lots of time. Never worked.
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Wed, 02-08-2006 - 10:01pm

An asthma attack isnt a sick child? You cant be serious. It may not warrant staying home with the child the next day, but its still a very serious illness.




Edited 2/8/2006 10:03 pm ET by djknappsak

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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