Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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THAT I'd agree with.
Wytchy
you know, i was going to include church in my last remark but it's sort of like home for us, so it would have just been redundant if i included it again. besides, i really don't know that the positive influence is any greater with church than another valued outlet would be. kwim? i was just talking with a friend the other day. i asked if she caught our priest's homily last week because one of the other priests at our church is leaving, and he had a lot of stuff to say about priesthood and our children et al. she said no as they do not attend church on sundays. ok, wtf...we're in bible study together, our kids are in religious ed together, i thought we shared a compatible worship schedule too. no, not at all.
but i do agree that sports can be a positive influence too. my girls are into cheerleading and dance moreso than team sports but that may change in the next year or two. ds is 3 and about to start his first team sport in the spring, soccer.
Really? Because I just can't fathom that...
Wytchy
Sure you could. Surely you don't think you *couldn't* raise your children without 'all that help'? Wouldn't it be more an issue of not *wanting* to? Or finding *having* it more beneficial? Are you saying that your children would die or you'd have to get rid of them if those other people weren't a part of your life? ;) Also- IMO there is a big difference between 'helping to raise' and 'helping ME to raise'... 'Helping to raise' to me denotes that that person is in part raising your child. 'Helping ME to raise' to me denotes that the person may be helping the parent in whatever fashion, but is not directly involved in the raising of the child. See the difference?
Wytchy
Actually, I WOULD wonder what she meant if a WOHM said she WOH to be a "better" parent to her children. Does she think she wouldn't be as good a parent if she SAH? Why? If I were a SAHM and she said that to me, I would be taken aback. I would wonder if she meant to suggest that, as a SAHM, I'm not being the best parent I could be. As a WOHM, that statement would come across as defensive to me--as if the speaker is used to being questioned about her choice and feels the need to defend it. Although that thought may be more a product of my experience on these boards than my everday life ; ).
Depending on how well I knew the speaker, I would either press further to have her clarify whether she was talking about herself or in general, or I would walk away thinking what a loaded and slightly rude thing to say to someone you barely know.
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