Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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"Helping ME to raise"? You mean like the dairy farmers who produce the milk but whom we never meet? No, I'm not thinking of them at all.
But to answer your question, no, I definitely could not raise my kids without all the help we receive. I guess in some minimal, isolated manner I could. But not to become the well rounded humans they are becoming. I can't give them medical treatment, teach them trigonometry, explain The Holy Trinity to them, or teach them violin. I need help, and lots of it.
"Off the top of my head I would say no. I think teachers, grandparents, etc, are an influence on my childrne but they are not helping me raise my children since I do not think they serve in the capacity of parent."
Well said. I totally agree.
Robin
That may be. I didn't intend for this to morph into a discussion of breast vs. bottle. The original point was simply that if you do breastfeed, it becomes a very important part of nurturing and takes a lot of time. Since dad is unable to do that, that makes mom better equipped to nurture an infant, if indeed she is breastfeeding.
Yesterday was pretty busy at work, and today I'm off and need to get a bunch of things done this morning. These boards can be addictive.... Hope your day is less hectic today.
My dh used to take off his shirt when he gave the kids a bottle too. But to do that every time, if you're exclusively bottle-feeding, is unusual among the bottle-feeders I know. Maybe the people I know who bottlefed simply don't put much stock in the skin-to-skin contact idea.
I'm not saying breastfed babies are necessarily nurtured better than bottle-fed babies. I'm just saying the frequency and skin-to-skin contact come naturally with breastfeeding. With bottle-feeding you have to think about those things and plan to do them like you did. And most babies don't take the bottle as frequently as yours did.
Different people have different perceptions. Neither I nor my WOHM friends seem to think anything of it when the statement comes up (either way) in the crowd we socialize with... We may agree or disagree regarding the WOH/SAH issue itself but we don't read anything into what someone is saying if they say that *they* WOH/SAH *for whatever reason* We don't take it to mean anything outside of *THEIR* situation. *shrugs* (I say that after having asked a handful of them LOL! They found it rather funny that someone would infer so much from someone describing *their* situation...) To each their own I guess.
Wytchy
I'd say that would mean that you could raise your children- just not the way and with the resources you'd prefer to have.
Wytchy
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