Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 2:11pm
No I mean that when I say on this board, I SAH to raise my children...I am not putting you down. It has nothing to do with you at all.

 

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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 2:21pm
That's what I said in #423...
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 2:28pm
I don't know about hormonal differences, but for me personally, I definitely feel differently feeding my dd a bottle than I felt when nursing. My kids were breastfed a minimum of 9 months, and up to 15 mths for one. My last and current baby had to give up the breast as a means of nourishment b/c my supply dried up. Feeding her a bottle is a totally different experience to me than when I nursed her. I don't really know how to describe it, esp to someone who has never breastfed. But there was something quite peaceful, and almost pleasurable (I don't mean that in a sick way) about breastfeeding - the sensation of it, though totally not in a sexual way. When my dd drinks from a bottle, she's just guzzling it down out of hunger, but when she nursed, it was different. She'd drink, suckle, drink, suckle, and seemed totally at peace. I wish I could describe it better, but for me, it is a completely different experience bottle feeding and I personally don't feel it is as nurturing. If I had only ever fed using a bottle, I'd probably never know the difference. I don't think it at all affects the bond b/w mother and child, but I don't think either me or my baby gets the same thing out of it.
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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 2:56pm
yes....and to take it a bit farther, i don't get the point that when asked what it is (you) do for a living in normal chit chat conversation, it's ok for a wohm to answer her exact occupation which more than likely leads to things like what her schedule is like, the ins and outs, loves and hates of her job, maybe even who watches her children while she can still assert that she raises them etc.....it's *not* ok for a sahm to say i sah to raise my children. go figure. lol.

 

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 3:38pm
i think that just goes to show you that somewhere on the internet you can find something that supports your position. when i look up raise in the dictionary, i see things like, to bring up, rear, to grow, to care for to maturity. when i think of raising my children those are the things i am thinking about and perhaps others are too. by that definition the other people in my childrens lives are certainly helping me to raise my children - but i knew that without looking it up in the dictionary.
Jennie
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 3:43pm

I looked it up in the dictionary b/c of this debate. I thought the definition I found was interesting.

To raise, to grow, to bring up - I still read this as the parents responsibility. We are raising our kids. Others influence and enhance my children's lives. However, no one but my dh and I are raising our children.

I really do not think there is a right or wrong answer here. I think it is how you define raise. We are looking at the same definition and coming to different conclusions. I do not think one way is better than the other. Just different.

Edited: Your "just goes to show you can find anyhting on the itnernet to prove a point" is kind of funny in light of the fact that when people make a claim everyone on this obard asks for proof. I was reading this back and forth debate about raising and I was wondering what I considered raising. I looked it up in the dictionary not "the militant sah mothers who hate woh mothers board" website. I thought the definition shed some light on how I view "raising" my children.




Edited 1/27/2006 3:53 pm ET by debbiemom2girls
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 3:57pm
Make it simple. Just say it if that is what you feel. If it bothers a WOHM that you say it then it will have to bother her. You sound a lot like myself. It isn't about any SAHM, WOHM, or WAHM or any mom for that matter. It is about myself.

 

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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 4:29pm
Yes me too. The lactation people told me to pump till I "went dry" and I could almost never do that in one sitting. I had over supply vs. under supply issues. When we moved we had a full drop in freezer full of BM. This with two infants who were nursed/fed BM exlusively from birth through to 13.5 months...It took me ages to wean myself down...painful.
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 7:02pm
BWah!!!! Did you just call jlkuhnke a militant sahm?????? LOLOLOLOLOLOL!

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 7:56pm
actually it is not "critical" to a nursing baby, a nursing baby could be switched to a bottle at any time, and i understand there would probably be an adjustment period. what is "critical" to an infant is food, not the source of the food.
Jennie

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