Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:26pm

i personal experience is that breastfeeding and bottle feeding is equally nurturing. I think it depends on your experience and your expectations. if one really wants to be breastfeeding and cant for whatever reason i would imagine they would feel differently than someone who chooses to bottle feed.

my first dd i tried breastfeeding, we were both miserable, we switched to bottles and life was good, for both of us. had i continued to force breastfeeding the nurturing she would have received would have been greatly diminished because we were both so miserable. my second dd was exclusively bottlefed. with both girls feedings were a special time, a time to spend together, in a calm and peaceful setting. now my son was exclusively breastfed (although he did have one bottle in the hospital and one when he was about 4 days old) he was the one who would just latch on and guzzle until he fell back asleep. feeding him was just as pleasureable and peaceful as feeding the girls, he just went about it differently. so thru all of my varied experiences with feeding my kids, to me there just is no difference and the nurturing they received in the process was pretty much the same. while i will never know how my kids felt about the way they were fed as infants, to me they were all equal.
Jennie

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:33pm
i looked my definition up on dictionary.com, which to the best of my knowledge is not a militant anything site - but i could be wrong. if you somehow think that i am a militant sahm you couldnt be more off base - i was a wohm for 10 years and have been a sahm for 5 years - and my opinion is that work status, be it sah or woh has no affect whatsoever on how kids are raised. but i also do not believe that i raise my kids alone, there are too many other wonderful people in their lives who are deeply concerned and committed with helping them to become the wonderful people they are becoming to believe i am doing it alone.
Jennie
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Registered: 11-18-2005
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:37pm

If you read my post, I was being sarcastic. She claimed you could find anything you wanted on the internet. I stated I used the dictionary not some militant sah website.

I do not know what you were reading or how you came ot that conclusion!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:40pm

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Seriously, can you guys read straight??? Where did I call you a militant sahm???????????? You claimed you can find anything on the internet to prove your point. I stated that I looked in the dictionary. I was being sarcastic when I stated it was the DICIONARY (never said you) and not a militant sah website.

Where do you people get this stuff?

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 8:47pm
If multiple people read your posts the same way and fail to grasp the meaning you attempted to convey, the AUTHOR is at fault, not the readers.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:25pm
I disagree. It's not an easy feat to switch a nursing baby to a bottle. Babies become very attached to nursing--it's more than just a method of food delivery.
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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:49pm

Very good post.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 10:55pm

.....and I for one, am not ashamed to admit that.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 01-27-2006 - 11:47pm

I understood what you meant, lol.

Robin

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 6:09am

So, 2 people read it wrong. I mean you 2 were not even close to being right. I point out 2x what I stated. My post was extremely clear. I never once stated even remotely that she was a militant sahm. It was not even "implied". And it is my fault? Oh, please. What a joke!




Edited 1/28/2006 6:14 am ET by debbiemom2girls

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