Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 11-18-2005
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 6:10am
Thanks, I thought it was pretty plain English.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 9:40am
Hard to imagine "raising" them without all that support. I don't think that's what SAH"s mean by SAH to raise their kids. Kinda makes you wonder just exactly what they *do* mean, but oh well ;-)
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 10:57am
Thank you. Don't you love meeting those wonderful "other parents" who are always incredibly surprised to find out just how lenient they are according to their children?
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:13am

Sports are a big one for us too, as well as music lessons, travel, and family. Family is so important for us, we interact a LOT with my immediate family. My brothers and father especially are huge influences on my children-they have given my children some amazing experiences.

As far as what kids model, every research article I have seen still shows parents as being at the top of the list, no matter what the age of the children. As the saying goes *children learn what they live*. Kids in a strong family unit are a lot less susceptible to outside influences than one might think.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:16am

Lol, according to dd, we are the only parents in her entire school who care about their kids grades!

Good post.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:33am
That's why you intro the bottle at 3 or 4 weeks, so they'll take one if need be.

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 11:58am

IMO there is a difference between "...helping to raise my children" and "...helping ME to raise my children". The former insinuates a direct interaction between the other person and your children which means they are involved in the hands-on raising of said child. I disagree that my child's librarian is in that position (as one previously mentioned example). However, I'd say that yes- most certainly that person is helping ME to raise MY children in that any assistance and support offered to *me* allows me to be a more effective/better parent. The latter denotes a support/assistance to the parent that allows THEM to better raise their children. Not that said person *IS* raising/helping to raise said child. Semantics? Perhaps- but IMO an important distinction.

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 12:05pm

In my experience it all depends on the individual baby as to how easy/difficult it is to switch them over to a bottle. To say "It's not an easy feat to switch a nursing baby to a bottle." is simply a false statement as it is far too generalized. Now if you're talking about your own babies? OK. If you're talking specific cases? Fine. But as a generalization? It's patently false. Mine both took to the bottle the first time they were offered it.

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 12:09pm

So you're suggesting that were for some reason all of these were removed from your life you would not be able to raise your children? What, would they die? Would you be forced to get rid of them? My point is that one could very well raise their children without these resources, but certainly they ARE beneficial and I'd wager we'd all *prefer* to have access to them.

Wytchy

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Sat, 01-28-2006 - 12:21pm
Would John have died without those other influences? No. Would he be the great guy he is now? No. He would have missed out on a great deal, to his detriment. To get the outcome we got with John, it would not have been possible to raise him without those others in his life.

Karen


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