Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:20am
You just said you are the primary parent. Now you don't want to do more hands-on parenting than your husband. What makes the primary parent the primary parent? Are you the primary parent in your eyes? DH's eyes? The kids?
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:21am
I'm the primary parent because the children have a stronger emotional attachment to me.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:28am
Why is that, do you think?
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:41am
i think we are looking at this from two different angles. When you originally said breastfeeding was critical to a breastfeeding infant, my response was that it was not critical. my reason for that is that to me critical denotes a life or death situation, and at the time i believed that a breastfed baby if breastfeeding were no longer an option would take a bottle before they would starve themself to death, thus making it not critical. i am sure there are babies out there who would refuse a bottle if they are continuing to be breastfed- i had one who did just that - but i also believed that had there been a reason i could have no longer breastfed him that he would have adjusted to a bottle - i have been convinced otherwise. and that is just one more thing parents need to take into consideration when making that decision to breast or bottle feed.
Jennie
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:51am
No Lois, but I did return to work FT when my dd was 12 weeks old, and I didn't start a bottle until she was 6 weeks old.
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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:53am

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Why?

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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:53am
Because I'm more interested in them.

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Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:55am
Why would I?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 9:55am

Mine tend to sway back and forth between DH and I. My youngest had along preference for DH- then he started trvelling quite bit and he switched to me. Now that he is in 1st grade and in love with his techer- he has switched back to DH (I have competition with the teacher ;) ) Last week I was helping his class during writing time and he raised his hand to ask a question- I went tover and he pushed me away and said, "Miss H. is going to help me." with a little bit of attitude and humphyness. I was delighted. Last year he hated his teacher and school. I was worried that he would never fall in love with a teacher (I think it is an experience all children should have.)

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Registered: 03-27-2000
Mon, 01-30-2006 - 10:01am

Stronger how? And why?

Despite the fact that I do more hands-on parenting than dh, I really don't think my kids have a stronger emotional bond than me. I wouldn't even know how to make that judgment unless it was such a disparity that it was readily obvious.

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