Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Yep. My dh is the same exact way. He was happy when I was working but once we had children he was happy I was at home to care for the kids. Now that they are getting older, he is happy I am going back to work.
I couldn't marry someone who was not flexible.
That doesn't IMO make you the primary parent. It just makes you the favored parent for the moment LOL! Kids can change preferences at the blink of an eye. ;) Or are you saying that your DH is emotionally distant and that it's not an issue of preference, but that they're simply not as bonded to him? And if so- why is that and how can you stand being in that situation? (And if that *is* the case- do you really think that saying you don't want to do more than DH is a *good* thing for your children, if he's only doing the bare minimum as it is?)
Wytchy
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Doesn't change the point. If you want to issue absolute generalizations, that's your choice, but don't complain when someone says that your statement is false. Simple concept. Context wasn't an issue here. If you didn't mean to say it as an absolute- a simple "Whoops- didn't mean it that way" would be more than appropriate. Why be so defensive if you didn't mean for it to be read in the manner that you posted it? Or did you mean it to be an absolute- in which case, you can certainly see where one would call you on your statement being false.
Wytchy
Well if that's *not* what you're saying than you really ought to work on the clarity of your posts. Becauase if that's not what you were trying to get across- I have no idea what your point was. And yes- I've been following the thread- I just don't have every post committed to memory.
Wytchy
I absolutely agree!
Wytchy
That's a very good point. Flexibility. My DH certainly has his preference (me being a SAHM and homeschooling) and I share those preferences. But if he were the sort to try to force me into the role or not be supportive of whatever *I* would want, there would be major problems ;) I'm not the type to be 'handled' or pushed into a role I don't choose ;) LOL Flexibility is definately necessary ;)
Wytchy
Not as bonded to him just because they aren't as bonded or because he isn't as interactive, interested and *involved*?
Wytchy
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