Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:19am

I know, but isn't it interesting?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:31am

why shouldn't two parents have a different angle on parenting pka? are you insinuating that both parents *should* parent the same way?

do both boys come to either you or your dh and get the same answers to their questions, concerns et al.? i would find that odd as it is my dh that is the expert residence in math homework, the expert when it comes to playing catch with his son. whereas i'm the expert shopper with my kids (lol), the expert for answers to religion questions and the expert in pretty much the opposite of what dh is the expert in.

and i believe dh and i compliment eachother that way as we support eachother's strengths and expertise in opposite areas.

 

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:33am

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Sorry, you are right, you said more of the work, not all of the work.

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:42am

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Weren't you the poster commenting to another poster that you don't put all posts to memory?

PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:43am

Not a problem.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 11:50am

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I didn't say they shouldn't and no I am not insinuating anything.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:00pm

i think this is like beating your head against a wall - the other posters obviously has no network for her children and cant fathom the relationships and the importance of those relationships for families who do have that network.

if she really believes that a youth director/pastor only has a brief conversatin with a child/family after services that speaks volumes as to why she would feel the way she does - but that is so far from reality that it is not even from this world - at least not the one i am raising my kids in.
jennie

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:11pm
so now one must spend large amounts of time on a daily basis with a child to raise them - i guess i am no longer raising my two older kids then. the reality is that i do not spend large amounts of time with them on a daily basis. with my 15 year old there are many days i only spend 1 hour a day with her, some days i only see her in passing. with my 7 year old while i spend more time than that with her there are days when it is not much more - her teacher spends alot more time with her on a daily basis than i do. i do spent alot of time with my 2 year old on a daily basis so i guess i am still rising him. tme is such a small part of what is involved in raising a child.
Jennie
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:12pm

Good point and I agree.


PumpkinAngel

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Thu, 02-02-2006 - 12:12pm

>>she really believes that a youth director/pastor only has a brief conversatin with a child/family after services that speaks volumes as to why she would feel the way she does <<
did you not read where she replaces *raise* with *influence* by others like pastors.....i think there are a few posters on this board who do expect others' influence to help form and shape (raise) their child. i think one poster in particular sort of expects other outside influences to shape and mold her child's decision related to church..and htough that may or may not work, it is a proven fact that a child's number one influence in life comes from his/her parent. not church clergy, not school teachers etc.

and maybe (..just maybe) that's why some here own up to the concept *raising* and take it more personally than others.




Edited 2/2/2006 12:15 pm ET by egd3blessed

 

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