Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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***So now it's not about time or income? What is it about?***
What are you talking about? The post in question refers to the difference between a parent, whether WOH or SAH and that of Joe-postal-carrier or Jane pediatrician or whomever.
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***Where is the disclaimer that you have mentioned about other posters statements? Unless of course for some reason you can now speak for all sahps and all families in general?***
The phrase "tend to" clearly denotes a non-absolute statement.
Wytchy
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How can you not know what you are debating and I wasn't talking about you specifically or anyone specifically as I have mentioned.
PumpkinAngel
I believe they do and I think how's and why's about decisions are always quite interesting, don't you?
PumpkinAngel
Because you posted this...
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Which to me says while the other poster thinks that a SAHP is better then equal time (ie: dual WOHP) you belive that equal time is better. It implies that in a SAHP/WOHP family where the hands on time is no longer equal, that the active parenting is no longer equal either.
I just find it interesting (in a curious sort of way) that the approach is
PumpkinAngel
Jennie
Yeah. I am a lot more involved in my older dd school than I thought I would (which is why I am only working 3 nights week when I return). But, I also caved in last year and bought a minivan which I swore I would never do..lol!
***That's great, but I wasn't talking about your specific situation. What's the difference in theory? What allows the wohp to parent in the way they want to while they work? What allows the sahp to parent the way they want to because they are home? Same family, both are parenting in the way they want to, one works, one doesn't. One can assume that both parents want the same kind of parenting, so why two different ways of going about it?***
It seems as if you're looking at parenting as two completely seperate individuals rather than as a parental unit. A family does what a family needs to do to do what they think is best for the family... Meaning- if both parents want their children to have a SAHP, then either one of them has to SAH while the other WOH, or they have to split shifts so that a parent is home with the child (which has its own drawbacks in that the parents tend to seldom see each other when that is the case- oh- and notice the 'tend to' there- not meant as an absolute- remember?) In a WOHP/SAHP situation, the WOHP is providing for their family including providing a SAHP. That they themselves aren't or don't care to *be* the SAHP is wholly irrelevant if the point is that they want their child to *have* a SAHP and not merely that they themselves want to *be* a SAHP.
Wytchy
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