Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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***Again, a fine line to balance being a parent on.***
Only if one views that as the only way one can be a good parent. It's no different than wanting to provide a college education for ones child/ren and both parents having to WOH in order to provide that. It's not something that one balances their parenting on- it's simply a matter of what one wants for their children.
***In post 509 that's pretty much what you said and add the time factor from another post. So then what exactly are you saying here if not that you that in the sah/woh combination you are saying that the woh can only do his job because of the sah and the amount of time they spend with the child?***
The WOH parent can WOH just fine- but they can't WOH if they want their children to be cared for by an at-home parent unless a) his spouse is an at-home parent, b) his spouse works and they are the at-home parent, or c) both parents WOH but split their shifts so that one is home with the child rather than using othercare. Can you think of any other scenarios where a family's desire for a child to be cared for by a parent could take place?
***I don't recall you ever saying that you were primarily speaking of the 3 and under set, especially since we have been talking about raising children and being a parent....which we both know doesn't end at 3....so why on earth would we limit this discussion to the under 3 set?***
Read back through the thread- I've said it multiple times.
***That if they are defining the kind of parent they want to be based on their at home status, what happens when the children are no longer home during those hours? They don't have the large amounts of time nor even the kids anymore, so then what are they basing their parenting on?***
You are absolutely not understanding what I'm saying. Hopefully it's been cleared up by what I've said above.
***No, I wouldn't agree.***
So how would one go about homeschooling in a dual WOHP household? (Without working multiple 12hrs shifts or not seeing ones spouse because one is working nights while their spouse is working days)?
***It just means when the children are small and homeschooled, one parent is not working during the day....doesn't mean they aren't working at all or the fact that work status is even involved.***
I don't know about *you*, but *I* need to sleep *sometime*. WOH wouldn't be an option for me without using othercare.
***I know a homeschooling family where the father works a 9-5ish type job and the mother works 2 or 3 (I forget) 12 hours shifts.***
That's great if it works out for them. It wouldn't for us.
Wytchy
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Of course it is, but that's not what I find fascinating and I am sure you know that by my posts and the one I was responding to.
PumpkinAngel
to the extent that my pastor is a practitioner of his own faith, I should hope he does.
From the Methodist Hymnal, order of Holy Baptism for children and infants: The pastor is to ask the congregation, "Do you, as Christ's body, the church, reaffirm both your rejection of sin, and your commitment to Christ.
Congregation: We do.
Pastor: Will you nurture one another in the Christian faith and life and include these persons now before you in your care?
Congregation: With God's help we will proclaim the good news and live according to the example of Christ. We will surround with a community of love and forgiveness, that they may grow in their service to others. We will pray for them, that they may be true disciples who walk in the way that leads to life.
This is followed by the congregation invoking the Apostles' Creed and the service is ended with the following congregational pledge:
Pastor: Members of the household of faiith, I commend to your love and care this child whom we this day recognize as a member of the family of God. Will you endeavor so to live that this child may grow in the knowledge and love of God, through our Savior Jesus Christ?
Congregation: With God's help we will so order our lives after the example of Christ, that this child, surrounded by steadfast love, may be established in the faith, and confirmed and strengthened in the way that leads to life eternal.
So really,if the pastor is NOT aware that he is helping to raise the children of his flock, he should seek other employment.
Karen
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Of course it can be.
PumpkinAngel
I simply dont think that making my priorities contingent upon being at home is a big deal. Sure there are things that *could* change that. But it is not likely. Having a SAHP is pretty much mandatory for us and there is little DH and I would not do to make that a reality. I am 100% comfortable with our decision and the fact that we have set ourselves up to withstand a financial hit (due to divorce/death/job loss, you name it) I am not worried.
And yes if some unforseen force put us in a dual WOHP situation, I can only say it would only last until we could change it back to the way it is. I would not just accept it and move on. It's way to important for us.
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