Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 08-22-2005
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:02am

He's doing fairly well. I get 3 to 4 good scritch/lovebug sessions out of him in my bedroom/sanctuary areas. He's still QUITE skittish in the other areas of the house, but that is now limited to if we appear to be approaching him for contact. He's becoming a good deal braver if we simply ignore him other than a "Hi, Ricki" in passing. He no longer slinks through the common areas and the only time he dashes past us now is in tight quarters, such as the hallway to the bedroom.wwwwwwww/////=-

Okay, so just this minute he came to me in the living room at my computer desk and walked all over the keyboard (see the letter salad above :) That's a huge first :) He's also happy to sit outside the kitchen and watch my roommate cook (and I caught my roommate explaining the intricacies of Kung Pao chicken to him; when I busted him, he said, he felt obligated to say SOMETHING while ricki watched.

So progress continues. I think I may have to name him Rudy, after Rudolph Valentino, the World's Greatest Lover, because underneath all that scared, is one complete and utter lovebug :)

Karen


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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:05am

It's not exactly subtle, lol.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:09am

As I said before, I think we are pretty much done here.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:11am

Thank you.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:17am

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Which is pretty similar to my comments to what would happen if my village changed

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:19am

***How on earth do you figure that? Here's your post that I responded to.***

Apparantly you missed this part- "It just means that SAHP's tend to get more time with their kids. Either parent would tend to get FAR more time with their children than any of the above persons outside of said family." Of which the point was -----> "The post in question refers to the difference between a parent, whether WOH or SAH and that of Joe-postal-carrier or Jane pediatrician or whomever."

***You are talking about time.***

Right- do you disagree that parents, whether they WOH or SAH tend to spend more time with their children than the other influential adults in their lives?

***The post you copied a quote that talked about income and the privilege the mom3 had because of her dh's salary that allowed her to sah.***

Huh?

***It's still a general statement about something that sahms tend to do.***

General- yes. Absolute- no. There is a difference between noting a general trend and that of making an absolute statement such as 'SAHM's spend more time'... Much like there is a difference between 'It's not easy to get a breastfed baby to take a bottle' versus 'It's often not easy to get a breastfed baby to take a bottle'. See the difference?

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:20am

...I think that any marriage that carries a scorecard whereby each parent is checking off that the other is always doing exactly their fair share is unhealthy. I think that may have been more the point she was making. (That's what I got out of it anyway).

Wytchy

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:22am

Yes and as a poster so kindly mentioned, I have clarified what I meant to four different posters, some more than once.

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:24am

I see parenting as a unit- working together as a unified front. Not two individuals going at it completely seperately.

Wytchy

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Fri, 02-03-2006 - 11:31am
The apologies are *implied*, PA. Even if they weren't directly stated.

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