Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:09pm
I'm definitely in the minority on this point on this board.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:10pm
You are one very busy lady!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:12pm
No question under anybody's definition that our nanny is helping us to raise our children.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:13pm
n/t
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:16pm

I wouldn't think so- unless the child either goes to work with mom or the breasts stay at home/go to dc with the child (as far as exclusively breastfeeding). As for homeschooling- that depends whether the parents want to make the sacrifice of working split shifts and not seeing much of each other because of it.

Wytchy

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:23pm

I'd agree with that. But I'd say that when we're talking of young infants, that more is better and does make a difference IMO. Especially if we're talking about nursing mothers. But in general I'd say I agree with you there. Right now at age 2, DS could probably be just fine if I were doing a 30-40hr workweek. DD on the other hand (age 1) would be a basket case and absolutely miserable. So yes- each child is unique and different in that respect as far as time requirements/preferences.

Wytchy

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:24pm
That's a whole different debate, but sometime I'd like to hear your reasons for that.
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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:26pm
I didn't know that about you at all. Some time I'd like to hear (see?) your reasons for being so averse to infants in othercare.
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Registered: 11-12-2003
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:35pm
Well.. probably won't get into it now.. but I'd like to make it clear. I have no issues with infants in general in othercare, I just personally don't like my infants in othercare, I am not comfortable with it. (I realize that is for me, not for my kids)
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Registered: 06-04-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 3:37pm

***Of course it is, but that's not what I find fascinating and I am sure you know that by my posts and the one I was responding to.***

No- actually it came across as exactly what you were saying.

***Why are you curious as to why I am fascinated by the way parents view things?***

I'm not- I'm curious as to why it is fascinating to you that parents would have different ideas and views- as if it's not a common thing in your experience.

***I just find it fascinating to learn and understand why/how others approach issues. <> Some people are fascinated by watching reality tv, I find parenting fascinating. To each his own, I guess.***

That's a great answer. Thank you.

***Are you asking beyond the obvious? Or was that a rhetorical question?***

No- I just don't understand how you are seeing the mutual desire of the parents to have their child be cared for by a parent (specifically a SAHP) as an issue of different views/ideas. Just because they're not *doing* the same thing, they both *want* the same thing for their children. I don't see that as a difference of view, but apparantly somehow you *do*- that's what I'm wondering about.

Wytchy

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