Heart vs. Head: The work status decision

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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 8:07pm

What's your definition of othercare?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 8:26pm

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Really?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 8:38pm

Well, I did the breastfeeding thing for both boys, ds1 until he was 9 months old and ds2 until he was 6 months.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 8:48pm

As I have said before, that's your opinion.....not mine.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 8:57pm

sabinamariane did right here...

"Which leads to the obvious question of why it wouldn't be better (if *best practices* is the aim) to somehow allow that absent WOHP more of that all-important time with the kids, perhaps through dual WOHP's.""

What do you think this statement means? More often than not, a SAHP has more time with the kids than a WOHP does. How would going to a dual WOHP *not* lead to less time with the Ex-SAHP?

Besides, is it really better to strive for *equal* time with both parents? I thought more time spent with the kids wasnt necessarily better, as long as the time actually spent together is spent wisely?

Is there a number of hours you are "allowed" to strive for WRT children before you enter the group that gets told "you dont need that much time with the kids to be a good parent".

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 9:00pm

Huh?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 01-10-2006
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 9:01pm

Care given by anyone other than a parent (including other family) as a substitute for parental care on continuing basis. And I dont like the idea of it at any age.

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 9:15pm
The key word here is "perhaps" through dual WOHP. That's by no means the only possible way for both parents to spend plenty of time with the kids.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 9:17pm

No, I didn't say I didn't understand your statement, didn't even use that word.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-03-2006 - 9:31pm
<< sabinamariane did right here...

"Which leads to the obvious question of why it wouldn't be better (if *best practices* is the aim) to somehow allow that absent WOHP more of that all-important time with the kids, perhaps through dual WOHP's.""


What do you think this statement means? More often than not, a SAHP has more time with the kids than a WOHP does. How would going to a dual WOHP *not* lead to less time with the Ex-SAHP? >>


I didn't take it as a statement, I took it as a question and a pondering (or a leading)so to speak, since that is what she is stating.

PumpkinAngel

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