Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
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Heart vs. Head: The work status decision
| Tue, 01-17-2006 - 1:03pm |
Did you make your decision to SAH/WAH/WOH ft/pt based primarily on objective/tangible factors, or with your heart?

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What student wants all or most of his teachers, coaches and ministers "intimately involved" in his life anyway? Maybe a few such adults on an occasional basis, but children want to be with other children for the most part. Unless there is neglect or abuse.
It's fine and just may be sincere for the wohps here to say others are raising or even helping to raise their kids. Their opinion is irrelevant. The only relevant opinion is that of the coaches and teachers purportedly so bound to these children. I just don't believe coaches and teachers would agree they have been raising other people's children over the decades ~ nor were ready and willing to step in and take over as parent if the need had arisen.
Thanks for the full 411 - most of it's familiar to me by now. I, too, am quite the homemaker, I really get into it all, so I totally KWYM. I've always WOHFT, but if money were no object I'd probably have done more SAH, too. For me it's a blast to make the mac 'n cheese at noon, take the spots out of all the little clothes, do the playdate thing, I love all of it.
BUT neither wanting to spend more than a couple of hours per day with one's kid, nor BF, nor homeschooling, are precluded by WOH, which seems to get posted here most days;-)
The piece about nobody loving one's child like a parent also gets addressed often, and quite honestly it doesn't convince me one bit. Not that it isn't true, but that IMO it's more important for a parent than for a kid.
I've used group care (small family dc) and illness wasn't a problem, although I'm aware there seems to be a slightly greater rate of illness among kids in dc centers.
The pieces about cost effectiveness and about wanting to hang with your kid a whole lot are about factors in parents' lives and not so much about what's optimal for kids, right?
I suppose I was expecting more in the way of *child focused* reasons to avoid othercare from you.
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Hold on there - the debate hasn't been about who's raising them. It's about *helping to raise* and *helping the parents to raise*. Has anyone claimed teachers are raising their kids?
"...In situations like yours I'd say that it's probably something one *has* to happen into as a side-benefit rather than being able to plan for... That sounds rather complicated LOL! ;) "
Why would you think that it would have to be side-benefit and couldn't be planned for?
Wow, that's a lot!
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