Helicopter Parenting in the Workplace

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Helicopter Parenting in the Workplace
Wed, 07-03-2013 - 10:43am

CNN has an article on helicopter parenting in the workplace and how it can negatively affect a person's job prospects and employment: 

Aaron Cooper, a clinical psychologist at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, says mollycoddling mothers and doting dads can become a child's crutch.

Cooper says children, for the most part, often experience too many advantages of their omnipresent parents by the time they reach their teen years, so they're not particularly inclined to tell mom and dad to back off.

"They're more inclined to welcome the help because they are also seeing it as a cheerleader on their team pushing forward toward victory and success," Cooper said.

But "it's almost like a soft disability in their lives," he added, meaning that children become super reliant on their parents and unable to stand on their own.

Cooper attributes the growing phenomenon of over-parenting to a variety of factors. The first commonality is feelings of guilt that parents may have short-changed their children.

This is particularly potent when the parents have had full-time careers and may feel that they never really spent enough time with the children as they grew up. Cooper says it's the "I'm-going-to-make-up-for-it mentality."

Read more: http://www.cnn.com/2013/07/02/living/cnn-parents-helicopter-parenting-job-search/index.html?hpt=hp_c4

If you were the employer, how would you handle a situation like those presented in the article?  What do you think about that correlation between WOH and being a helicopter parent?


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Wed, 07-03-2013 - 1:09pm

DD1 is very good at telling me to back off, Lol.  When she leaves with friends I remind her to call when she wants to be picked up, she knowsss.  When she goes upstairs for the night I remind her to brush her teeth still, she knowsss.  When I remind her to smile before talking to a potential employer, she gives me the I knowsss then too, Lol. 

I really enjoy the dialogue that has come with having older kids now and while they still have a lot of growing up to do so do I in understanding them. 

I was talking with a church friend the other night who said the close relationship she had once wiht her DD has begun to fade away, I forget how old she said her daughter was but she was almost crying and my heart broke for her.  I get backing off and I know many moms going through this, Nobody said it would be easy I guess. 




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Wed, 07-03-2013 - 1:27pm
"Actually, a lot of SAH friends share common convinctions in why they chose to stay at home. " ----------- Yes, probably. But there are so many reasons why people SAH, that there really is no particular conviction or reason implied by that choice.
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Wed, 07-03-2013 - 8:35pm

For the employer who withdrew the offer after "Mommy" called to find out particulars of the job, I give only applause.  Can you imagine the NIGHTMARE of having to work with the employee day in and day out with "Mommy" carefully overseeing baby's employment?  Ack.  If you're not old enough to negotiate your own employment, you're not old enough to be employed.

The employee who brought up what his dad thinks in a meeting with new clients would end up with a meeting with me and HR about 1) "We don't discuss business deals with Daddy" and 2) "If we have discussed business deals with Daddy, we don't mention it in the business meeting with clients" and 3) Nobody here cares what your Daddy thinks.