Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 10:43am
Its on the way to Lakeview. They have a pretty good variety of food, your usual diner fare but also things like fried clams.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 10:46am
Yeah, I dodged that one. They were giving a free lesson to reel kids in and the dds ALMOST went. They changed their minds at the last minute and the one was never really interested anyway. Just the lessons were expensive, lol. I never made it to the gear part.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 10:50am
So far only one kid is interested so hopefully I can save money that way ;). Lessons are about $1300 for the year and that includes the outfit thingy, the belt and patch, t-shirt, a magazine subscription, and membership in the national (?) association. However, the testings cost more from what I was told last night, which tacks on another $200+ for the year. Sigh. You are correct, it is going to be very expensive. But she loves it and I've explained to her that this will most likely be her ONLY extracurricular until this time next year. You actually sound like you're coming out cheaper, lol.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 10:59am

Welcome, lol.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-15-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:00am
Thanyou~ :)
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:17am
Is quarters or credits? 36 is a lot in 4 years. Obviously, it's not years of each subject because that works out to 9 classes a year for 4 years. Is that half years?
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:24am

No. Personally, I question what kids can get out of algebra in Jr. High. Abstract thinking isn't something you can teach. The ability to think abstractly, required for algebra, is developmental.

Some kids simply will not be, developmentally, ready for algebra in middle school. I was one. I was probably in my senior year before I was there but by then, what I had faied to learn in previous math classes was holding me back. When I started college, they made me go all the way back to algebra for math. It was the best thing they could have done. Even with the material being taught at twice the pace of a high school class, it was a breeze for me. Kids like me should not be forced to take algebra in 8th or 9th grade.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:27am
I'm in the United States. What is true here isn't necessarily true in other countries. Here, I know a lot of unemployed math/science teacher candidates who have finished their student teaching. I have to try and find a position I can use for student teaching. I'm even worse off than they are.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:33am
Not to mention our schools are in crisis.

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 11:43am
They may also have more in the way of uniforms. I remember our cheerleaders had at least 2 different uniforms, one with long pants and sleeves for winter.

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