Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:13pm

LOL. Um, my job search is nearly nationwide right now. The university agreed that I'm not likely to find anything in Michigan. I'm not finding anything elsewhere either even with their help. They've set a goal of finding something for me by 2009. No, it's not just here.

I am, unfortunately, limited to the states that accept Michigan's requirements so it's not correct to call it a nationwide search but I am planning on leaving the state. There's just nothing here for someone coming out of engineering and going into teaching. Unfortunately, I'm not finding demand elsewhere either. With my grades and background, that has the university puzzled.

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Registered: 06-30-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:13pm
If kids don't get algebra by 8th grade, it precludes them from doing higher math in high school, and it can preclude their ever entering into a heavily math based field.

Sabina

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:23pm
Well, right now, it is mid-year. Positions for next year have not been posted. I know that Princpals start searching in March/April for *possible* positions, but the deadline for teachers to quit for the following year without being blacklisted in sometime in May. I know that our Principal does most of his hiring in May/June then in August, although he does quite a bit of interviewing in March/April.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:27pm
AMEN! I did horribly in algebra in the 8th grade. I simply did not understand it.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:29pm
If kids just CAN'T understand algebra by the 8th grade, why the assumption that they'll be moving to advanced algebra and trig? If you can't do the basics it stands to reason that you can't advance.
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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:30pm
Well, which one are you? I know plenty of people who took algebra in 8th grade and had a hard time with it.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:36pm
My DH has only owned one or two suits since I've known him. He hates, hates, hates having to dress in a suit. And we really don't go to too many functions where he has to wear one. Once in a while we have a wedding to attend. It seems we're getting back into wedding mode. 20 years ago all our friends were getting married. Now we have older cousins and family members whose kids are getting married. DH wears a suit rarely; maybe less than once a year.
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Registered: 06-30-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:36pm
If you can't do algebra by 8th grade, of course you're probably no mathematician.

Sabina

Oh, life is a glorious cycle of song,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:37pm

"Personally, I question what kids can get out of algebra in Jr. High. Abstract thinking isn't something you can teach."


Not everyone is like you.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:38pm
I was fine.

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