Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 10:13am
ROFL

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 10:31am

Jkhunke: >> have lots of lunches with my sahm friends and we have never once talked about wohms in any way, we all have great friends who are wohms, so why would we. of course we tend not to spend our lunch time talking about other people regardless of their work status. our moms group is made up of equal numbers of sahm and wohm <<

You: >>you need to get out more. (j/k!!) but really,i hear plenty of it. and it has nothing to do with judging others and everything to do with mutual commaraderie about why we do what we do.<<

Talking about wohms for camaraderie IS judging. Unless you talking about how much you are impressed by them. Which I doubt... very much.

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Registered: 02-07-2007
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 10:53am
I fail to see how the particular set of plumbing one was born with makes any difference in whether that person should or should not stay home with his or her children. Perhaps someone can enlighten me on the inherent care-giving abilities that necessarily require one gender or the other to be a sahp.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:18am
;) Jzy lives!
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Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:40am

I'd be very interested in chapter and verse as well since I try to emulate the Bereans in Acts17:11. From my reading of Scripture, most, if not all, verses that talk about childrearing is addressed to the fathers or to both parents.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 11:48am
wait.....you've called my posts hard to read and gibberish..if you don't understand what i write,where on earth are you getting the authority to judge it?

 

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Registered: 08-12-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 12:06pm

Considering that God outsourced the

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 4:23pm

I thought that way too, until I went through 22 hours of unmedicated labor and almost died. As soon as they gave me the epidural (with me hysterical over *caving* to the pain) my body relaxed enough to push. They still had to basically rip my son out of my body, but at least he was okay. I cant believe I bought into the hype so much of unmedicated birth that I jeapordized myself and my child over it.

Thats where I think women need to be VERY careful about talking about how women are just *underestimating the power of their own bodies*. It does nothing but make women who were not able to have unmedicated/natural births feel like cr@p and really has very little to do with the power of their bodies. I was in excellent physical condition when I gave birth and I have a huge pain tolerance. Had nothing to do with any of it in the end though.

dj

Dj

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Registered: 06-17-2003
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 4:37pm
As much as I think phoenix's spoutings about how moms belong in the home being a bunch of BS, I do think that unmedicated birth is much healthier for mom and baby. The problem is that it's not just a matter of drugs or no drugs, the medical establishment isn't set up to offer the kind of support that women would need for an unmedicated birth. All their rules and regulations (IV, no eating, continuous EFM, pushing position, etc.) work against an unmedicated birth and make it very difficult for a mom to have on in a hospital with an OB. So women who say they never could have done it without drugs are correct in that in the circumstances they were in they could not have done it but in different circumstances (midwife, jacuzzi for pain relief, different pushing position, eating and drinking during labor, no rules about anything) they very well may have been able to.
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Registered: 11-15-2006
Thu, 02-08-2007 - 6:44pm

.....you've called my posts hard to read and gibberish..if you don't understand what i write,where on earth are you getting the authority to judge it?

I know,huh! lol, how bout that, we must all be that special!

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