Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 11-11-2005
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:03pm

"AND IN OUR TOWN IT IS NOTHING NEAR A COL AREA"

All towns have a cost of living.

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Registered: 02-07-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:05pm

There are a lot of grandparents "raising" their grandchildren because their mothers refuse to be SAHM? Again, I am unaware of that.

As for "why not," if one of the parents "can" be home for the children, I would say that is up to each individual and couple to decide for themselves. I don't think there is any credible evidence showing that parents do their children a disservice by continuing to work, nor is there any credible evidence showing that children who have a SAHP fare any better than children who do not. Since women are usually the ones who are expected to stay home, I trust that they are smart enough to do what is right for their families.

~Ghostwriter, M.A.


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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:07pm

My husband works Mon-Fri 8-4. So I wouldn't know about the 80 hrs/week thing. But I would NEVER expect my husband to wk 80 hrs/week!

I am a SAHM.....I do have a home biz marketing non-toxic products....but my children come first! Just b/c I have a small home biz doesn't make me not a SAHM!

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:08pm

I would love to have Joy and Adam move back to San Diego so I could watch my grandson.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:09pm

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:09pm
WHY HAVE A PROBLEM WITH MY SCREEN NAME? THE WAHU MEANS WORK AT HOME UNITED.


Edited 2/10/2007 12:33 pm ET by wahumom
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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:13pm

You say why not, I say why.


In many cases the difference between being home with a child after school and not is a job.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:14pm

Thank you Chris for at least not attacking me. I appreciate it.

I am not real sure on the homeschooling thing....just a thought right now.

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:15pm
Yes I can support my opinions.....furthermore....I have never nor will I ever be prejudice.
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Registered: 03-21-2001
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:16pm
It's a debate board, you shouldn't be here if you don't like criticism.

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