Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:24pm

I dont think you really understand what COL is.

$1000 a month for a mortgage is very low. Ours is more than twice that and we only live in a moderately high COL area (its high but compared with places like California its still reasonable).

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:26pm
We live in Stephenville, just 2 hrs from Dallas
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:28pm
Actually by the difintion most commonly used on this board it does. It makes you a WAHM.
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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:29pm

No one is attacking you personally, just your assumptions that what works for your family in the area where you live applies across the country and for all families. Your posted monthly mortgage payment is less than what our 2nd dd, Erica, pays for her studio apt. for example. I haven't posted anything different that the other posters replying to you. I happen to live in a high COL area of the country. It does take 2 incomes for the average family to live here. And I would work even if it didn't. It's what's best for me, allows dh to work at a low-paying career that he loves, allows us to live near extended family, and it works for our family. If it didn't (and at one time it didn't--I've posted about that also over the years that I've been here), we would change it.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:30pm

You can't have it both ways. In one sentence you managed to say that you would always have your kids as first priority, but that having a job wouold put them second. I am sorry, but that makes no sense.

Besides, it sounds as if you have a job, just not out of the house. When you sign people up, what does that mean if you do not sell them anything? Do you sign them up for a mailing list or a list for sales reps to use for calling on people?

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:31pm

EXCUSE ME? WE DO NOT GET ANY GOVERNMENT HELP AT ALL!!!

SO I GUESS I CAN SAY YOU'RE WELCOME FOR USE NOT USING YOUR ALL-MIGHTY 6 FIGURE INCOME. DOES YOU 6 FIG. INCOME MAKE YOU BETTER THAN ME?




Edited 2/10/2007 1:13 pm ET by wahumom
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Registered: 05-14-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:32pm
I have no problem with your screen name you can call yourself anything that you want. I just think that it is very funny that someone who calls themself a WAH in their screen name touts the virtures of SAH.
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Registered: 11-11-2005
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:35pm

Nice town. I've been there are few times. It's not that far, is it? I think of Stephenville as just on the other side of Fort Worth. Parker County?

From the point of view of most people on this board, that is a low cost of living area. It is not meant as an insult, just as a comparison of how much it costs to live in various areas.

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:35pm
I AM UP AT 4AM DAILY....OUR 3 MONTH OLD IS UP FROM 4AM-6AM EVERY MORNING! SO I DO THAT ALREADY, AND NO I DON'T GO BACK TO SLEEP EITHER!
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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 12:37pm
HELPFUL CRITICISM IS ONE THING....BEING DOWN RIGHT RUDE IS ANOTHER!

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