Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am |
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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You can't have it both ways. In one sentence you managed to say that you would always have your kids as first priority, but that having a job wouold put them second. I am sorry, but that makes no sense.
The reason I say the above is because I used to work in sales at a newspaper office own by a huge corporate franchise. They expected us to put our children second, and my children always came first, which is why it was really hard to keep my job, and the only reason they did keep me in my position was because I am darn good at it. BUT nevertheless...I ended up quitting because it got harder and harder to make them realize that my children & DH came way before that job ever would.
I sign up customers and then they do their own ordering via website, and the are acutally members of the company by being a preferred customer. They place their own orders each month, and then their orders are shipped via UPS straight to their home. If you would like to hear more about it, I can tell off list...since I've already be "accused" of advertising.
Yes, your area would be considered a low cost of living area compared with a lot of other states. It isnt an insult, it just means that homes in your area cost less than other areas, taxes are lower, and median incomes tend to be lower.
Example-a 3 bedroom home in some parts of the US might cost around 100k. A 3 bedroom home in northern California can cost over 1 million dollars-and we are talking just a basic house, not a mansion.
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Yes it's an awesome town! I love it here. I guess that is why I took such big offense to the comments on it being a low COL area. I just don't see it that way, and I guess it may be compare to CA or somewhere.
But nevertheless...it is an awesome town!! Erath County actually. We are 1 1/2 from Haltom City & North Richland Hills area.
Thanks for clerifying everything for me.
My FIL lives right next to us on our property. He built a home there.
I didn't realize that I was judging others. I merely stated my opinion in the beginning and now I am being attacked about it. That offends me and then I get deffensive, and come on strong. I don't understand why my opinion was turned into an agruement between how people feel. I just merely stated my opinion early on the same way that others had.
Maybe I am being singled out, because I am new to the community....not really sure why...but it is very hurtful.
HOLD ON here...I didn't ever say that my husband works more then 40 hrs a week...he wks mon-fri from 8am-4pm....what is wrong with that?
I think you must have me confused with someone else. I don't expect my husband to ever,ever, ever have to work over 40 hrs a week. AS a matter of fact....we are in the process of starting a furniture biz so he can work at home instead of building houses. We would rather him build furniture in our shop by our house, than to be away from the home building houses.
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