Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 4:33pm

"I merely said that if both parent's DON'T have to woh, then it is selfish to do so."

So, if it would be possible for my family to survive without my working, then it is wrong of me to work, no? How is that not a judgment. Also, why is that so?

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 4:44pm

cmwendyw thanks for stepping in, but I am removing myself from this topic and I guess if I get the same negative responses on other topics I post to, I will just not talk on these boards any longer.

I merely joined because I chat w/people on ivillagelive.

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Registered: 02-07-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 4:45pm
Wahu has stated that she is not going to continue this conversation. Sometimes people spout off an opinion without really thinking it through. I have no idea if this is the case with Wahu, but I'm sensing it might be.

~Ghostwriter, M.A.


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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 4:51pm

actually ghostwriter2007 you couldn't be more wrong.

I am not discussing this anymore because it seems that everyone is taking my comments out of context...and I don't appreciate it at all! I am sick of it. I didn't spout off my opinion and not think it through....there are just a few people on here that obviously can't "discuss" things with out pointing a finger at someone.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 4:51pm
saying it is selfish isnt the same as saying its wrong?

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 4:57pm

dj, i just posted before this that i am not talking on this subject anymore.....so i guess i should say no comment.

i guess if anyone else sends a message my way....i will just say no comment

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 5:00pm
Well I dont know why a person would make inflamatory statements on a debate board and then refuse to debate. Certainly your perogative, but maybe a support board would be more what you are looking for.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 5:02pm
Did you not expect anyone to debate your opinion? I really dont understand the point of your posting. And I didnt see anything taken out of context-you made statements and got angry when people questioned them.

Dj

"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 5:07pm

I made a comment to the original post on page 1.

Then I felt like instead of others posting their opinions....they seemed to trash mine.....that is not moraly correct in my book. opinions are opinions....why argue about them being different?

I guess I just honestly feel that the entire topic needs to removed because it went over board.

I have to get the little fed now. c-ya

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 5:44pm

But it's morally ok to tell me I"m selfish for working??? THAT"S ok in your book? But If I say "no I"m not and I think you're wrong' then I"M attacking you? not seeing it...

and this debate board has seen SO much worse than this discussion believe me. As a gay single working mom I relish the debate and the challenge of trying to open others eyes to different points of others and I've often found myself in great agreement wiith some of the most militant SAHM s on the board ona wide variety of topics (who knew EGG and I voted the same? LOL) that's the beauty of a debate -- stating your piece, hearing the rebuttal and then re-stating or learning and rephrasing -- that's deb ate. Saying " I think this and if you disagree you're atacking me" is not so much debating...

 

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