Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 02-09-2007
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 7:30pm

I understand what you are saying about debating this topic.

As you said >>...said that she had seen legislators literally shouting at each other over a bill, then the votes taken, one side loses, they shake hands and move on. <<

The only problem is...I have asked that my part in this debate be dropped....which to me would like shaking hands and moving on.....BUT it doesn't seem like anyone wants to move on.....it's like energizer bunny commercial.....it keeps going & going & going.....

So I am proposing this: I am shaking hands w/this & everyone who seems to keep going....is anyone willing to shake hands w/me & move on to bigger & better issues?

If so great...let's do it, but if I log back on later & see that I have posted to or re-debated....that isn't moving on.

thnx

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 7:34pm

"I can't stand it when both parents are working outside the home, and there isn't the need for it. That to me is very selfish!!"

I can't stand when people think their family is the only one that counts, and so as long as their family is provided for, they should make no effort to contribute to society outside of the home. That, to me, is very selfish.

Of course, one does not have to work for a paycheck to contribute to society outside of the home. But for some of us, our contributions would be incomplete if we devoted only a day or two a week to the cause.

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 7:37pm
Why would anyone here agree to not debate what the main topic of the board is? If you don't want to debate it, fine, but people will probably still reply to your posts. If you don't like it, Don't Come Back. Easy enough.
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 7:40pm
Better be careful...you might end up "raising" him by accident. :-)

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 7:58pm

At the risk of offending you by posting on a topic that you would rather drop, it will eventually die a natural death if left alone. All you have to do is to ignore everyone who continues to reply to you.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 01-05-2000
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 8:00pm

LOL

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 8:55pm
Such a declaration most certainly is a prejudice.
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Registered: 11-03-2006
Sat, 02-10-2007 - 8:55pm
So you won't mind if I say that I can't stand it when women SAH when they could work. Such laziness. Right? It's just my opinion so I don't need to explain my statement or support it right?


Edited 2/10/2007 9:42 pm ET by gr8fulmom1
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Registered: 02-07-2007
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 7:58am
No, I don't think your statement is anymore acceptable the way you have now rephrased it. Saying that women who work when they could make it on one income means they are putting money ahead of their children is pretty offensive. My opinion.

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Registered: 11-03-2006
Sun, 02-11-2007 - 8:37am

Given the combination of the incredibly low savings rate for families in teh united states and the precarious condition of social security, I think moms in the work force are warranted. It's a bleak future for those who don't save to take care of themselves.

Being able to save is one of the reasons my husband works. We could live on my income but want to save for college and retirement and to be able to have our kids participating in activities. I guess he's just too greedy to SAH, lol.

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