Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am |
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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(and might I say "backatcha!" )
Yes. We. Did.
Obviously, every situation is different. We relocated in 1992 after my husband got laid off. It was very scary. My only sibling had already moved 2,000 miles away. My in-laws had already relocated to another state, and my husband's only sibling lived some 600 miles away (and she passed away in 1995). Fortunately, we were able to convince my parents to relocate in our area when they retired 9 years ago, so they were able to watch their only grandchildren (at the time) grow up. (Since my brother lives so far away, they have seen their newest grandchild only a handful of times in her 4 years.) Through sheer luck (or divine intervention), they found a home in our neighborhood. Now they are elderly and have suffered some serious health issues, so relocating at this stage of our lives in search of a better paying job would not be morally right for us, even if we wanted to, which we don't. We love where we live and the life we have built here, and I can't imagine saying to my grown children, "See ya! Dad got a great job in another state, so we're outta here. Good luck on your own."
Coming from a very small family, I don't think people should under-estimate the importance of family ties. It's one thing if you really truly cannot find a job where you live (such was the case with us), but to leave your support system behind in search of greener grass is not always the best thing either.
~Ghostwriter, M.A.
~Ghostwriter, M.A.
(((HUGS)))
Try not to let her comment bother you.
The tide is turning. Don't let a cyber debater get you down.
You are opening doors by being out on the board - it took guts. You add a great persepctive.
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Not sure where you got that...you read WAY more into that post than was there.
I am not relying on SS.
Yes. We. Did.
Yes. We. Did.
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