Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am |
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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The tide *is* turning. I think its a beautiful thing to see.
I watched the Rosie O'Donnel cruise ship special on HBO awhile back. I'm not a big Rosie fan anymore, but I have to say that she has done some amazing things to help facilitate and support gay families. There was one couple on the ship that I cant forget-2 men who wanted to adopt *a* child and ended up adopting all the childs siblings too. They ended up with 4-5 kids and their situation just brought tears to my eyes.
As someone with a gay sibling, I cant imagine my brother never being able to be a parent. He is such a wonderful and amazing person and will make a great dad someday. I trust him completely with my children and value his input in their upbringing-in fact, he is one of the first caretakers of our children listed in our will.
It just makes me sad that there are still people in this world who would think he shouldnt adopt simply because of his sexual orientation.
dj
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
I've been MIA for a while, but I can't believe what I am reading in this post.
A man is just as capable as a woman being a full time parent.
Yes. We. Did.
my partner and I joke about those Rosie cruises b/c she HATEs boats and I love them --we keep waiting for a Rosie family outing at a landlocked resort LOL.
you know, my daughter's godfathers are a gay couple (my best friend and his partner of ten years) who have the most stable, loving respoinsible relationship and who just ADORE my dd -- they are so good to her and supportive of her in every way and when we asked them to be her godparents (a mutual decision of my ex husbands and mine-- we all went to college together and my best friend and my ex dh have a wonderful strong friendship all their own..but I digress) My friend said "thank you for helping us find a way to bring the care of a child into our lives..." they'd be the best dads ever....
Yes. We. Did.
Don't sweat the "knows how to cook" gene. My sister doesn't cook. Her exdh did all the cooking the 17 years they were married. After they divorced, her oldest ds took over. And then her dil when ds #1 got married. Now that our parents live in a retirement apt behind her house, our mom does the cooking. My sister has raised 2 wonderful boys to become 2 wonderful men all without a "knows how to cook" gene.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
Dj
"Now when I need help, I look in the mirror" ~Kanye West~
Yes. We. Did.
Wow!
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