Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am |
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Yes. We. Did.
My husband would be thrilled to be a SAHD. I know because he has said so many times. If either of us were to be a SAHP, it would definitely be him.
I've no doubt that the majority of men prefer to work outside of the home. But how much of that preference is because of society's expectations of men and the male gender role? How many men are confident enough to not care about what society dictates?
>>>>>>>>The amount of people who *would* but can't because they don't make enough only applies to a small percentage.
I haven't done the research necessary to either support or refute this statement. I think it's safe to assume that people living in poverty are not able to save money. And I spent enough time in a situation (not living in poverty) where we were barely getting the rent paid to know that it wouldn't have mattered how badly I *wanted* to save, it just wasn't going to happen. I tend to shy away from generalites like the one quoted above.
~Ghostwriter, M.A.
"If someone would be equally happy as a lawyer or a teacher, should he or she choose to be a lawyer if having summers off are important to him or her?"
It depends what else is important to the person.
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"The amount of people who *would* but can't because they don't make enough only applies to a small percentage."
I must be highly unusual.
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