Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:12pm

C'mon Suzy, how many suits and dress shirts does your DH buy per year?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:14pm
Not even cute $29.99 shoes from Target?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:16pm
Your God? No.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:17pm
Since when does First Timothy trump Proverbs?

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:25pm

do we really want to get into this on this board mk?

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 5:30pm

When something separates any of us as brothers and sisters from God through sin it is sad and it hurts everyone as we are all children of God.

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:09pm
Oh yes. I'm thinking less than $600.
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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:14pm
LOL.. I forgot about those! Even in a year where I spent more than average (because of the cruise we went on, and a wedding to go to, etc.) I don't think I spent more than $250 on myself. In fact, I think that's being very generous. My dh only buys Ben Davis pants, and packages of t-shirts. I don't shop at places like The Gap or The Children's Place for the kids.
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Registered: 11-20-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:15pm
Also in play here is my terrible cheapness disease. Those shoes? I put them back 4 times before I would give myself permission to buy them. Most of the time, I'd just not buy them, but my mother made me. LOL
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Registered: 02-06-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 6:28pm

I have a good example to live by that's just as motivating. My father's parents saved enough so that they were able to finish out their lives at home. When my grandfather had a stroke they had a home health aide come in 3 hours a day/7 days a week. Then when my grandmother was diagnosed with Alzheimer's my parents hired a live-in who stayed on after my grandmother died and took care of my grandfather for 5 years.

Even with that tremendous expense they were still able to leave their house, some cash and lot of stocks and bonds to their three children.

More importantly than the inheritance though was the fact that my grandfather got to die at home. It meant a great deal to all of us that he never had to leave the house he built (literally....him, alone). It takes a lot of savings and a LOT of planning for that.

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