Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:24pm
BELCH!!!!!!!!!!
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Registered: 11-27-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:33pm

Would you teach your children about right and wrong? If you did, would you teach them what you thought was right and wrong or would you just let them decide for themselves?

I don't sit in judgment of anyone. However, I will always make decisions as to what I believe is right and wrong. I expect everyone to. Don't you? No one has answered that question yet, care to? You are judging me, if by your standard I am judging anyone (which I'm not). I don't believe you are judging anyone either....I think you hold indignation for my position and can not justify it any other way except to say it is judgment. In fact, if you understood what Christ is about then you would know He expects us to love all our fellowmen/women but He also expects us to stand up for what He taught was right and good. It can be done. Christ showed us it could be. He did not love the sins of the people, but He loved the people unconditionally.

O

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:35pm
but what you believe isnt important, only what God does, and i have yet to meet a human who can come close to being able to speak for God.
Jennie
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Registered: 11-27-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:37pm

yeah, you still don't get the joke or what? it's supposed to be blech! you know, like "bleck"....like the puke sound kids make. not a burp. Well, unless you meant for it to be read as belching, in which case, you'd have to explain why one would belch at something another posted.....that's just plain lack of manners. Puking is a reaction to something putrid.

Get it yet? Blech 101...... whatever. ;)

O

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:43pm
do i teach my children the difference between right and wrong. of course. what i do not teach them is that they have the right to decide for others what is right and wrong, only for themselves. i know very well what Christ was about - judge ye not lest ye be judged. can you point me to the scripture where Christ says homosexuality is a sin? or where Christ says women should Sah? not some persons interpretation but Christs very own words. and yes, when you say that someone who is not living your beliefs is wrong then you are judging - but like i tell my kids someday you will have to answer for that and it wont be to another person.
Jennie
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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 9:47pm
there was no kidding intended - i said exactly what i meant. and you are the last person who should be talking to others about manners
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 10:15pm

That was a beautiful post about your friend and her family thanks...I have one funny story to share before going to bed and thought you might like to share it with your friend....(as background to this story you need to know that my girlfriiend has small mole right on her eyebrow which causes her GREAT constrernation ) Anyway, our copy of tv guide came yesterday and Ellen degeneres is on teh cover and my dd says 'oh Ellen! Ilove her! I watch her show at daddy's house sometime, she's so funny" I said " I love her too... did you know she has a girlfriend like I do?" and my dd looked at me very seriously and said 'REALLY?" I said "yup, she has a girlfriend like me" and she saiid "Wow..her girlfriend has a mole on her eyebrow TOO?"

;-) I have high hopes for her generation!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 10:35pm

o i teach my children the difference between right and wrong. of course. what i do not teach them is that they have the right to decide for others what is right and wrong, only for themselves. >>>>>>

Of course. But you said yourself you teach them right from wrong. So does our Father in Heaven. It is law that homosexuality is not permissable. Paying special attention to verse 27. We are taught what is right and wrong. We are taught to be discerning in our judgments about what is right and wrong. I was asked what my thoughts were. According to my beliefs, that homosexuality is an abomination, I cannot take up for the homosexual's side and claim that the parenting of a gay person or couple would be best for a child. I did not make any personal judgment upon anyone.

Romans 1:24-32:

24 Wherefore God also gave them up to uncleanness through the lusts of their own hearts, to dishonour their own bodies between themselves:
25 Who changed the truth of God into a lie, and worshipped and served the creature more than the Creator, who is blessed for ever. Amen.
26 For this cause God gave them up unto vile affections: for even their women did change the natural use into that which is against nature:
27 And likewise also the men, leaving the natural use of the woman, burned in their lust one toward another; men with men working that which is unseemly, and receiving in themselves that recompence of their error which was meet.
28 And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;
29 Being filled with all unrighteousness, fornication, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, debate, deceit, malignity; whisperers,
30 Backbiters, haters of God, despiteful, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents,
31 Without understanding, covenantbreakers, without natural affection, implacable, unmerciful:
32 Who knowing the judgment of God, that they which commit such things are worthy of death, not only do the same, but have pleasure in them that do them.

i know very well what Christ was about - judge ye not lest ye be judged. can you point me to the scripture where Christ says homosexuality is a sin? or where Christ says women should Sah? not some persons interpretation but Christs very own words. >>>>>

So, the verses above are not good enough? That isn't just 'some person' teaching, or do you think so? As for women should sah? We have 1Timothy 5:8, but thank goodness we also have the OT and latter-day prophets to help us understand God's word. He did always give prophets when there were people who would live His laws. So it is.

and yes, when you say that someone who is not living your beliefs is wrong then you are judging >>>>>>

No, I said that I believe this way. You believe I'm wrong so..... in your own words....

- someday YOU will have to answer for that and it wont be to another person.

O

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 10:37pm
My manners are just fine, thank you very much
O


Edited 2/14/2007 8:07 am ET by phoenixrising687

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 01-13-2006
Tue, 02-13-2007 - 11:06pm
that must make me miss manners then. please refrain from telling me what i did and did not mean, nothing gives you the right to do that. and i imagine plenty of people would know exactly what i meant if they read the post it was in respone to

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