Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
| Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am |
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Do you live in a cold climate?
Those are not the words of Christ. Those are the words of Paul. There are all kinds of reasons to explain why Paul made this point.
Christians believe in salvation by Grace. They do not believe that salvation rests on following arcane and eclectic "laws" decided on by men.
Aorry about that, I didn't realize my link was so old.
Actually, it is relevent that SS is unlikely to be there because we can expect poverty rates to go up as pensions and medical are phased out.
I stand corrected on poverty rates being high for seniors. I guess 1:7 senior women living below the poverty rate isn't cuase for alarm to the women of this board.
I'm really confusing two issues, the poverty rate and the increase in cost of living you get from medical and other care when you're a senior. IMO (unsupportable) the combiation leaves many more seniors living poor than just the poverty numbers, which only measure income not expenses, would indicate.
Edited 2/14/2007 5:22 am ET by gr8fulmom1
If only we all had crystal balls. I actually tried to make the switch from engineering to teaching but found the road blocked. Unable to afford a 8-12 months unemployment before I took that 50% pay cut to go into teaching, I was unable to student teach so I couldn't get my degree. Right now, we have a glut of teachers so luck has a lot to do with it. My mistake was thinking that with the math/science combination and years of industrial experience (relavency is a buzzword these days) there'd be a way to not do that 8-12 months of unemployment in order to student teach.
Good luck. Once you're in either profession you're in good shape. And yes, luck has to do with it. As I said there are only so many government jobs. We can't all go after them. Then there'd be no one to work and supoport the government.
so, instead of clothing, how about utilities? Heat, hot water, electricity, water, etc. What about credit cards, telephone, cell phone, internet?
while the family many not spend $3000 -- the FACT is that they will need to spend SOME amount of money on clothing -- especially if there are at least 2 growing children -- and work clothes that need to be bought.
Carole
while I think $3000 is a bit too far out -- here's what i spent this fall/winter -- $210 on 3 winter coats -- $50 on 2 pair of boots -- $250 on 10 pairs of jeans (5 pairs per 2 children @$25 per pair) -- $500 on clothing for me (hadn't had much new (good) clothing when I was a single mom) -- $100 on clothing for dh (shirts, pants that got lost in his move over here) -- $75 on little girls pajamas....
That does not include the $40 registration fee for basketball, $25 for basketball sneakers, $80 every other week for my daughter's counseling, $400 per year for religious school, etc.
Carole
<> and yet, you then go on to say that mkat's daughter would be better brought up in foster care than with TWO loving adults taking care of her?
How can you reconcile those two things?
Carole
You might want to keep that in mind.
Sue
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