Help! Husband pushing me to find job!

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Registered: 11-04-2006
Help! Husband pushing me to find job!
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Tue, 11-07-2006 - 10:35am
My husband has just taken a leave of absense from his high paying 80 hour a week job to focus on being home more and finding out what he really wants to do. He is now working 3 days a week at a job he really likes. He always said if he took this job he would find another part time job to supplement the income. I am working weekends and babysitting during the week, but my income is a joke. Our kids are 5 and 3 and cry every weekend when I leave. My problem is this: my husband has put no effort in finding that 2nd job he said he would find and is pushing me to work full time. I want to be a stay at home mom, but it may mean him going back to a job he hates. He says the kids will adjust, get over it. Am I being selfish or lazy for wanting to stay home? Is he being selfish for leaving a good paying job?

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:21pm

I really don't have dress up clothes.

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Registered: 09-04-1997
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:24pm

The best I can figure, the boys and I spend about 1125 bucks on clothes and shoes, including two pairs of basketball shoes at over a hundred bucks each, during all of 2006. That might not include some stupid souvenir t-shirts and stuff we bought on vacation...DH took the boys to the Baseball Hall of Fame, for instance, and you gotta get the t-shirt, right?

DH bought a new suit and two new sports coats this year, but that was unusual for him....he hadn't gotten any new professional clothes since the year we were married. I don't know what all he spent, honestly.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:24pm

Part of my expense is the fact that my oldest outgrows things each season, so I am basically buying roughly 1.5

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:31pm
My dd is so tiny!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:43pm

My oldest son (10 years old) is on his second pair of tennis shoes this season.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-27-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:45pm
Who said anything about going to hell? I didn't because I don't believe that.

O

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:49pm
When dd was small I made all of her formal clothes. It was partly out of frugality, and partly because I could not stand the badly made, overpriced, nasty looking things in the stores. I would get 5 bucks worth of cotton calico and some cotton lace, cute buttons and make her smashing easter dress for 10 bucks. I used to make most of my own formal clothes as well for the same reason. Generally, I just need one decent dress, one decent jacket, one decent pair of shoes and a that will see me through.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-06-2004
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:50pm

I don't think they sell sports shoes.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-27-2006
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:52pm
Oh, heck! (bops self on the forehead) I forgot I am not a Christian. What was I thinking? LOL........yeah, whatever you figure.

O

"Besides this we have our living prophet, for whom I am grateful, and I hope to follow after him all the days of my life.&

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Registered: 03-28-2003
Wed, 02-14-2007 - 3:54pm

No, I don't think so. Depends on your definition.

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