? for high paid WOH that decided to SAHM

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Registered: 08-19-2007
? for high paid WOH that decided to SAHM
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 8:32am

I've never written on this board before but I'm hoping I can find some other women out there that were in the same spot I am in.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 10:56am
What I was trying to say is that at her salary level, she has alternatives other than daycare or quitting.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 10:58am

"I don't want to just stay at work because I make a lot of money."


Oh, you're fully funded for college and retirement if your DH gets laid off, disabled, dies or divorces you?


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Registered: 08-19-2007
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:12am

I feel like we're getting a bit off topic.

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Registered: 09-02-2003
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:16am

I think you should ask about part-time work, and then if that doesn't pan out, quit your job for a bit and see how you like staying at home.


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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:28am
Try a SAHM support board.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 2:19pm

36 weeks is considered full term. I had both mine at 37 weeks. Then my sister had two at 37 weeks (two years apart). Some of us have faster cookers than others.

If you want to sah, sah. I usually tell people to live off one income and bank the future sahp's post tax income for at least 6 months to see if it is doable. Make sure you are not injuring your future retirement or college savings for your children.....

I was in a medium level career when I went to part time and then sah. It took a good year at home fulltime to to adjust to the tempo.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 4:44pm

I don't want to be Debbie Downer here but.......


I would seriously consider staying in the work force.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 7:03pm

If your only reasons for wanting to stay at home are to be less frazzled and to avoid daycare germs, my suggestion would be to keep working and to put your income toward a nanny, housekeeper, and cook. For $120k a year in Houston, you could get all three full-time and still sock money away for college.

But if the reason you're frazzled is mostly from the fact that you don't get to see your son as much as you'd like, and if an entry-level position would pay $75k (OMG, can I be you? lol), then there is absolutely nothing wrong with taking a break for a few years and then going back.

It sounds to me like you're good to go either way. It's a golden situation - embrace it! You can almost *literally* do whatever you want here.




Edited 5/1/2008 7:18 pm ET by finally.me




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Registered: 04-22-2008
Thu, 05-01-2008 - 11:00pm

If I am not able to offer a bit of advice from experience, I can at least say, I totally hear you. I am working on a year goal of quitting and staying home with our two children with the hope of adding one more. I am very excited about this new adventure, but have to say it is scary to think of not having the daily stimulation of my job. I have a successful career in a specialized field that has nowhere to go but up and am very challenged by my job. I feel afraid of losing the socialization I get at work, the mental challenge, the comfort of a daily schedule, becoming needy of my husband, and last but not least, of course, the income. BUT, I have outweighed those factors by these:


1) My youngest daughter is also perpetually sick from day care, ear infections, stomach viruses, pink eye, you name it.


2) On an average day, we get home at 6:00. My kids go to bed between 7:30 or 8:00, so with homework, baths, and dinner, it literally leaves us with around 15 minutes a weekday of free bonding time. My job is extremely stressful and exhausting, so on the weekends I am largely a vegetable. While we do play, a significant part of time is spent recharging batteries in pajamas, etc.


3) My older daughter is in 3rd grade and suffering with the school work. See above for how much time there is for school work. I want to be there to help her myself.


4) Above any and all of the time or convenience factors, I simply want to be a better mother. I want to know my children better. I want to

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Registered: 01-15-2006
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 12:53pm

i predict a bitter resentment if all you focus sah on is what you gave up in monetary worth.

 

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