? for high paid WOH that decided to SAHM

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? for high paid WOH that decided to SAHM
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Thu, 05-01-2008 - 8:32am

I've never written on this board before but I'm hoping I can find some other women out there that were in the same spot I am in.

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Registered: 01-04-2008
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 1:27pm

I am not surprised she went the daycare route- I make a little less but not much and I found that I prefer daycare because of the social interaction- the circiculum, (the babies

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Registered: 08-19-2007
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 2:11pm

Nikipi31,


I agree with you totally.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 2:25pm

"We also have a substaintial amount of retirement and savings and with one income we still are positive each month (us engineers have a super duper spreadsheet that tracks our monthly income and bills!)."

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Fri, 05-02-2008 - 3:33pm

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If that's the case, then if it was me, I'd stay at home for a while. Money is important because it gives us security, which allows us to enjoy life with our family. But if you already have security with just his one job, then what's the point of making gobs of extra money with a second job if you never get to enjoy time with your family? And lets say the poop hits the fan and something happens to your DH (heaven forbid), you'd go back to work. You've already mentioned that you have substantial savings and that an entry level position pays 75k. You'd have to scale down, obviously, but you're hardly in danger of becoming homeless.







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Registered: 07-31-2006
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 8:43pm

Hi


I left my job

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Registered: 10-17-2003
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 9:07pm

OK, I wasn't earning 120K when I left my job (I also left 8 years ago), but I do feel that I left a reasonably well-paying career.

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Registered: 08-19-2007
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 10:46pm

'Oh, you're fully funded for college and retirement if your DH gets laid off, disabled, dies or divorces you?'


To answer your questions, we already have a 529 college plan set up, while not enough to put him through Harvard yet, is a great start.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 11:18pm

Well I SAH with my twins for 14 months. At the time I left a career making....quite a bit more than what you've indicated. I wasnt bored at home. I didnt lack for stimulation. However, when the kids were around 12 months I got an itch to go back to work. I went back two months later.
We just had our 3rd child 5.5 months ago (nov 17) and I went back to work when he was 12 weeks old. Mostly from home, and now about 2x a week in the office or at meetings.


Anyway, no real advice other than do what feels right for you, your family, and don't make long term decisions. My mind changed at a few different stages along our childrens development (and ours).

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 11:20pm
really? Personally I wouldnt be hiring a nanny unless it was a nominal expense. If your total income was say $250k (her's and husbands combined) then the after taxes expense of a full time nanny is significant.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 05-02-2008 - 11:53pm

Your post makes it sound like you think nanny care is superior than daycare no matter what. Both have their advantages and disadvantages.Your post makes it sound like you think nanny care is superior than daycare no matter what. Both have their advantages and disadvantages."


agree. We had totally unforseen (from both sides) turn over with our nanny. Both have +'s and -'s and like with most things in parenting -- there's no absolute right or best way.


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