? for high paid WOH that decided to SAHM
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? for high paid WOH that decided to SAHM
| Thu, 05-01-2008 - 8:32am |
I've never written on this board before but I'm hoping I can find some other women out there that were in the same spot I am in.
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A few questions first.
1) What type of engineer? (Curious mostly, DH is an Electrical/Physics engineer who works in the satellite communications industry)
2) What area of the country do you live? (Low COL, medium COL, High COL)
3) How easy is it to get back into your particular niche industry? I know a few engineers who sah for a while and were able to go back fairly easily. (However, there are a few types of engineering that are still ruled by sexist males.)
4)How old was your child when he started at a daycare? IME, children don't get sick until they start moving around. Mine didn't get their first cold until 8 or 9 months. Both were in daycares. I would consider going the nanny route if he is prone to getting sick.
5) Is your DH taking time off when your son is sick? Who does the drop off and pick ups?
Edited 5/1/2008 10:16 am ET by tryingtoquit
We took the daycare route because we didn't like the single thread of a nanny and because our first son was so extroverted (even at 3 months). We had a very good experience in daycare. However, if our second son had been born first, we might have gone the nanny route - was much more of a homebody.
Your post makes it sound like you think nanny care is superior than daycare no matter what. Both have their advantages and disadvantages.
I know that it fits well for you and your family and you have had a great experience and no turnover, but it may not be as good as a fit with another family. Some of my friends who have gone the nanny route have not been as lucky with longevity as you.
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If you had written just this:
"If you make $120K +, you can afford a nanny. That will decrease your frazzle, your son will get sick less and you won't have to miss work when he does get sick."
I would have agreed with you.
It was when you added:
" I'm surprised you went the daycare route for childcare at that income level. "
that made your post seem like you were saying nanny is the only way to go at that income level.
Have you approached your current employer to discuss the subject of parttime? I was in the software development field and pt was unheard of at my company until a coworker and myself approached management with a job share plan. The company got to keep two highly skilled workers, paid less in benefits and overall salary, and my coworker and I worked three days a week with one day overlapping. I'm sure we worked more than our scheduled 24hrs a week, but it was worth it to have 2 extra days free for non-work plans. I transitioned back to wah fulltime employment once my youngest (of 3) and the flexibility and seniority that I have with this job I earned by working pt when my children were young.
PT and flex hours are quite common in my field now, but I was a bit of a pioneer 13 years ago.
The reason why I'm at the daycare is because it's company subsidized (it's still $950/months though) and on-site where I work.
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