In an odd way, I can relate to your sister. DH is not a shift worker, but he is currently consulting for a company in
I've considered working shift work to coordinate with dh's work schedule and not have to need daycare. So far I haven't had too, I would much prefer a daytime job job while they're in school. But someone has to bring home the bacon! My dad works second shift and my mom HATES it. He didn't work it when we were kids but worked so much overtime, he was never home, anyhow.
I love when my H is not home for dinner - no stress about a sitdown dinner - I am happy with Cottage Cheese and Cantalope or something like that - I can throw together something quick for the kids. But when the whole family is home I feel obligated to do something more.
I don't really feel I need to sit at a dinner table to talk to my kid - so that is not really an issue.
If he ends up with shift work I bet I lose 10 lbs the first few weeks.
There is so much going on from 4-9 sometimes it is just easier to do it myself and not to have to communicate the schedule to another person. I am not a big dinner eater and the kids are very independant.
When the kids were toddlers it drove me crazy if he came home before bedtime because he would start wrestling with them, etc after bath and books - then it was like another 30 minutes to calm them down.
"We have a fairly formal dinner every evening"
Why? I have a friend who does the same thing - I asked Why and she did not really know why she thought it was important but to her it was super important. Still she does not know why she sort of believes that is important but has no real reason why it is important to "her".
The napkins also have to match the candles at dinner - but she does know why about that - I mean they have to.
Same question - why?