History repeating itself.

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History repeating itself.
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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 3:20pm

ROFLOL!





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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 3:48pm

I miss that show.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 4:03pm
mamageek wrote:

I agree but daily most cultures do this at 2pm.

We do this for Mothers Day, Birthdays, Christmas Eve, Christmas, Thanksgiving, etc

We eat together just not always dinner and not every night.

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Fri, 09-02-2011 - 5:01pm

2 pm has never worked for us as a time for a family meal.

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Sat, 09-03-2011 - 3:48am

I don't think anyone is arguing that the daily, shared family meal MUST be dinner. It is most likely just that in the US, dinner is the most obvious meal for sitting down as a family.

We used to do it for a late lunch instead, as you say in your post. So all through dd's junior high and high school years, we would all meet at home around 3, for a hot, sit-down meal. It was a good way to regroup and take a break, check in with each other etc, since all of us were typically scattered and busy in the evenings.

Rituals are not just for special occasions like Mother's day. I think it is important to have some degree of ritual around the daily routines of life. Eating on the fly in front of the TV promotes poor eating habits, for one thing. Having some minimal ritual means that you stop, think and focus on your meal and I think that is important. My dh has a bad habit of grabbing things and stuffing them in his mouth standing up in the kitchen if he has been away all day, is stressed and missed meals. It means that he eats a lot of stuff that is not that good for him and that doesn't add up to a satisfying meal. IMO, it is much better to take a minute, think, then make a plate, set a place at the table, sit down, take a deep breath and eat properly, preferably with company. For the same reason I never allowed dd to walk around the house with a snack or snack in front of the TV etc. All food was eaten from a plate, at the table. She is grown now and still does this as a matter of course.

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Sun, 09-04-2011 - 2:51pm

My mom was a nurse when I was growing up and I am married to a cop.

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 7:19am

I don't think eating at a table every night would fall under the definition of ritual - more like a routine.

We have routine to our evenings.

We also have rituals other than "big" days - like Thursday was movie night. Monday was pasta night.

Healthy eating habits rarely include a huge meal at the end of the day - while I agree that you husband should probably grad for a peach instead of a bag of chips - he could do that and sit with the kids while they do homework.

I just think the need to sit and take a break and check in can be accomplished many ways other than dinner. I have nothing against sitting down to dinner I just think if it is not working then not to stress about it.

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 7:25am

While my kids are very smart - and also special needs. I think that it is not a matter of learning how to sit at this point but having routine so there is not an arguement or it does not work against their expectations - which is necessary for a child that is rigid.

But I can have 1 routine for the weekend, 1 routine for sports nights and another routine the other nights. It seems to work fine.

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 7:38am

To Everybody,

Do you find that dinner is the only time

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Tue, 09-06-2011 - 8:41am
I don't think it is unhealthy to eat a large dinner. I find I eat the healthiest when I disregard advice about eating small meals throughout the day and stick to a three meal a day plan, with dinner being the biggest. Honestly, nutritional advice about when to eat is far less important than simply eating the right amount of calories. I mean, I just don't think it makes that much difference whether I split 2000 calories into 5 400 calorie meals throughout the day or into 500, 500, 1000 calorie meals.

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