History repeating itself.

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Registered: 08-22-2009
History repeating itself.
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Sat, 08-27-2011 - 7:21am

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iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 12:49pm

Hey, that was a pretty good summary!





iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2003
Wed, 09-14-2011 - 10:07am

It sort of went like this...

somebody: Shift work is a bummer

me: it has it's positive points too

someobody: we got sad when our dad was not home for dinner

me: dinner - I can take it or leave it

Then a bunch of posts: dinner is important, it is a time to get with kids, reconnect, many cultures do it .... etc.

me: Can you do that other times of the day with out food?

everybody - after a while - yea I guess but we prefer to do it at dinner.

Okay - just wondering what the big deal is about dinner - seems like in the end - not really that important.

Okay that was not exactly how it went but sort of.

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Registered: 04-16-2010
Sat, 09-10-2011 - 11:03am
Jumping in a few days late, but after reading up to this point, I am wondering who you are debating with. Not one single person has said that *the* family meal must be dinner. I believe that everyone participating in this thread has said that there is flexibility b/c of different schedules. Your annecdotal evidence does not mean that there are strict rules governing the family meal, and that we all just go alont with those rules, without any thought as to how it works for the family.
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Registered: 06-04-2003
Thu, 09-08-2011 - 10:22am

I have been on these boards for year and asked a lot of questions because I question my judgement often and through this self realization believe I have become more open minded and understanding of others.

It does not matter how diverse we try to make our physical world - with limit time and experiences it is hard to really see "the other side".

I wonder often - am I missing something. Often I am.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 5:46pm

I agree that asking "Do you think..." is different than asking "Don't you think..."





iVillage Member
Registered: 01-08-2009
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 3:24pm

Honestly, why do you care so much what other people do, and why do you get to be the judge about what is or is not a "valid" reason for being inflexible in someone else's family?

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Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 3:16pm

It doesn't seem like people agree with her so much.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2003
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 3:07pm

While I agree to stay out of other poeple's when directly asked my opinion I sometimes give it, for many reasons.

I have kids with SN and it is a hard road to travel - it is helpful to hear how others handled the situation.

Being married is also hard to do - I think if she asked me privately - not in front of a dinner party - I would have said - maybe you should compromise.

Also, she seemed to not really want my opinion but she wanted somebody to have her back - which is a very different question.

Do you think it is important to have a sit down dinner every night with the family?

is different than...

Don't you think it is important .....?

So I did stay out of it. She is my friend - not just some random party goer.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-04-2003
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 3:00pm

He coaches his son's fball team and does not have time to get home - sit for

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-24-2010
Wed, 09-07-2011 - 1:48pm

Sure it could be the wife's issues & asking him to leave unreasonably early too.

“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” 
― Markus ZusakThe Book Thief

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