Hey, that was a pretty good summary!
It sort of went like this...
somebody: Shift work is a bummer
me: it has it's positive points too
someobody: we got sad when our dad was not home for dinner
me: dinner - I can take it or leave it
Then a bunch of posts: dinner is important, it is a time to get with kids, reconnect, many cultures do it .... etc.
me: Can you do that other times of the day with out food?
everybody - after a while - yea I guess but we prefer to do it at dinner.
Okay - just wondering what the big deal is about dinner - seems like in the end - not really that important.
Okay that was not exactly how it went but sort of.
I have been on these boards for year and asked a lot of questions because I question my judgement often and through this self realization believe I have become more open minded and understanding of others.
It does not matter how diverse we try to make our physical world - with limit time and experiences it is hard to really see "the other side".
I wonder often - am I missing something. Often I am.
I agree that asking "Do you think..." is different than asking "Don't you think..."
Honestly, why do you care so much what other people do, and why do you get to be the judge about what is or is not a "valid" reason for being inflexible in someone else's family?
It doesn't seem like people agree with her so much.
“Clearly," said Arthur,"you're an idiot- but you're our kind of idiot. Come on.” ― Markus Zusak, The Book Thief
While I agree to stay out of other poeple's when directly asked my opinion I sometimes give it, for many reasons.
I have kids with SN and it is a hard road to travel - it is helpful to hear how others handled the situation.
Being married is also hard to do - I think if she asked me privately - not in front of a dinner party - I would have said - maybe you should compromise.
Also, she seemed to not really want my opinion but she wanted somebody to have her back - which is a very different question.
Do you think it is important to have a sit down dinner every night with the family?
is different than...
Don't you think it is important .....?
So I did stay out of it. She is my friend - not just some random party goer.
He coaches his son's fball team and does not have time to get home - sit for
Sure it could be the wife's issues & asking him to leave unreasonably early too.