How and when did you . . .

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Registered: 02-23-2006
How and when did you . . .
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Mon, 09-17-2007 - 4:30pm

decide to "jump"? Or not jump, as the case may be?


First, I believe that SAH, WAH or WOH are all very personal choices that are dependent on very different family situations and dynamics. I have been a WOHM for just over 2 years. I'm glad I have done it. It has given me an appreciation for scheduling and balancing two distinctly different parts of my life. I had always thought that I would always work - that daycare was a short term (5 year committment). I'm proud of my

 

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-17-2007 - 7:22pm

My WAH started by doing daycare for my granddaughters. My WOH started by my granddaughters moving away with their mother. That was followed by college. We then moved 500 miles away. I then started my business WAH as a special education advocate and consultant.

During this time, my kids were teens to adults, moving out as they came of age. That was the biggest trigger, I think.

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Registered: 10-13-2007
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 9:41pm

I admire you for doing so much research into the decision! To me that means that you and your husband are really prepared for the change.
I have been both and working mom and a stay at home mom over the past 17 years and I don't regret any of the time at home or at work. I think that it is a very personal choice for each woman. For me, I worked as long as I could during my first pregnancy and then resigned before I left for maternity leave. I then stayed at home

Lori

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Registered: 12-06-2004
Sun, 10-14-2007 - 9:49pm
It sounds to me like you really did your homework.

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Sun, 10-14-2007 - 9:58pm

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:03pm

Thanks - it was good to read your story. It is always beneficial to hear how other people come to their decisions. . . It's funny beacuse, actually reading this board, I came across a post that asked "Why did you have kids?" I always knew the answer, but the full force of the meaning of that answer hit me when I read that post. I had a child because that was what I was called to do. DH and I have gone back and forth on when I should consider quitting to focus on my daughter and potentially, another child. I knew I would want time at home with DD before another child came along. I got pregnant in July

 

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Registered: 02-23-2006
Mon, 10-15-2007 - 2:07pm

You make some great points. I had originally thought about approaching my work to see what the possibility of part-time work would be. But I have decided that I'm ready to leave this field of work and that I don't want part-time at my current job. Not that I'm ungrateful for an decent job, but, sometimes it is just time to move on. I agree 100% about not burning any bridges and leaving doors open. There are some voluteer opportunities that I may be able to take advantage of on that end of my career spectrum. On the other end, I think I will substitue teach once a week. That will help me keep a current resume and line in to potential future jobs while still maintaining a flexible work schedule that will allow me to be home.


Jamie

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 9:16am
I "jumped" to part time when the door opened at another company and I asked.
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Registered: 02-23-2006
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 11:02am

That's one of the things I am hoping for - more time with family . . . our life is so crazy busy that we can hardly enjoy it. We don't have time to go visit Nana & Papa

 

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Tue, 10-16-2007 - 6:53pm

I decided in stages. When I had my first child, I never considered SAH. I loved my career (sci/med writer) and had a lot of room to grow in it. We hired a live-out nanny, bought a second car, and I commuted to work 3 days a week or more when necessary, and worked the other two at home. This worked out really well for 2 years. Then my son was born. At the same time, our nanny, who was always an oddball of sorts, lost her mother, and really started to have emotional issues.


She told me that she had never dealt well with men (she had never been married or even

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Registered: 03-21-2001
Thu, 10-18-2007 - 7:20pm

I'm not one to take big leaps like that.

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