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How did you do it?
| Thu, 03-03-2005 - 2:32pm |
I am about to turn 23 and I want to start trying to have kids when I turn 25. I want to be a stay at home mom. I LOVE kids! I could not be away from my baby. But, heres the problem. How do I afford it? 2 car payments a house payment, and 1 credit card payment! And of course all the other monthly bills. My husband and I both have college degrees but he does make more than me. We both want me to stay at home. How did ya'll switch from 2 incomes to 1? Is everyone just rich? I dont get it! Please help! I know I need to start preparing financially for this now!

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Dylan hasn't been sick any oftener that his sisters and he's the one who has been in full time daycare and at school. The girls were homeschooled. I'm just reporting what the newspaper article said. And I'll add in that is the observation by my dcp as well. I do also agree that some kids just don't get sick that often and other kids get sick no matter what.
Chris
The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett
It makes you sick that other people make more money than you?
If you want to SAH and you are happy wearing old clothes and never getting a break from household chores that is just fine. Nobody will tell you that you are wrong for wanting that. The BEAUTY of living in America is that we all get to choose what we want. And to me choice is the ultimate luxury.
But I would never want to live that way. It would be far to stressful for me to know that nothing could ever go wrong. To be home all day without a car would be difficult, if not impossible around here.
I don't understand why you feel that all people should limit themselves to enough material possessions to just get through life? It is no sin to have a little more living space, nice clothes and a new car.
Jenna
You say that "just because you can afford the best in life doesnt make you a good parent" well likewise, just because you are struggling THAT does not make you a good parent either. And having money does not make you a bad parent.
I question any parent who SAH becuase their kids like it that way. My kids like having me around also. I work when they are in school and pick them up every afternoon. But I don't work my schedule around what they want just because they want it. They are 6, 8, and 11 and they are far to young to be dictating the structure of our family. That is something dh and I will decide for many years to come.
I don't presume to know what is best for other families. I don't think you should either.
Jenna
You write "look in history the greastest men of all time came from meager beginnings. poor and proud" What would you make of Franklin D. Roosevelt, and Winston Churchill? They came from wealthy famiies. I am sure there are more, but these 2 came to mind quickly.
Jenna
So is this a rant about mothers who work or people who enjoy material possessions? Because I can show you a number of SAHMs who have "McMansions," designer clothes, and manicured nails.
mom_writer
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