how do i convince my husband

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Registered: 03-31-2004
how do i convince my husband
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Mon, 07-18-2005 - 4:09pm
how do i convince my husband to let me at least job-share so i can take care of our 3 month old dd? he grew up with his mom working & all his friend's moms working. we can afford it if we cut back on some things, but he doesn't want to cut back & just doesn't understand someone wanting to be a stay at home mom...it doesn't help mycause that the grandmothers will babysit. i'm so unhappy about having to go back to work...he wants me to work full time 1 more year & just doesn't get it! i feel like my heart is being ripped from my chest every time i hink about it.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 12:25am
Who do these studies talk to - i know my kids had teh same cargivers from infants until they started school or until i became a sahm. I really dont know anyone whose kids have been with numerous caregivers, they have one to two caregivers from the time their children enter care until they go to school. I really think most kids could adapt to two different people in their lives over 5-6 years without undo hardship.
Jennie
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 9:55am

"Who do these studies talk to -"

Again, the NICHD study is, "The most comprehensive child care study conducted to date to determine how variations in child care are related to children's development."

"i know my kids had teh same cargivers from infants until they started school or until i became a sahm."

So, how many caregivers did they have? Also, when did you start SAH? How long have you SAH? BTW, simply by SAH you lowered the number of additional caregivers your children had.

"I really dont know anyone whose kids have been with numerous caregivers, they have one to two caregivers from the time their children enter care until they go to school."

Again, according to the NICHD study, "Infants in child care experienced, on average, more than two nonparental arrangements during the first year." BTW, this is just in the first year alone. Also, this is based only on one child. When you add siblings, and especially the use of center based care (as children change rooms several times depending on age), as well as high rates of staff turn over into the mix, the number of caregivers increases rather quickly.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:05am

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Sure you did...you said how can you compare a wohm to a wahm 200 years ago?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:06am

I won't hold my breath or anything.


PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:07am

Then what are you talking about?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:10am

Can you or somewhere on the website provide actual proof of the 99% of all of those mothers who breastfeed their daughters throughout history

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:25am

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Why are you playing dumb here?>>


Why would you say something like that?

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:30am

From post 974 modified just a bit to fit this post.......


La la la, I can't answer

PumpkinAngel

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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:38am

"I have to ask again, when does this child have time to play"

DD gets up at around 9 am and goes to bed around 10pm. Summer, Holiday, and Weekend Homeschooling Activities/Projects take up roughly 3 hours with an additional hour in the evening for reading. So, all in all, 4 out of the 13 hours of the day are spent on such activities, thus leaving plenty of time for play. BTW, we, and especially my dd, certainly consider learning to be a very enjoyable, and exciting form of play.

Homeschooling Activities/Projects during the school year take up roughly 1.5 hours with an additional hour in the evening for reading. So, all in all, 2.5 out of the 6 hours after school are spent on such activities, thus leaving plenty of time for play. And once again, we, and especially my dd, certainly consider learning to be a very enjoyable, and exciting form of play.

"with all these structured activities."

Structured? Yeah, I basically have/had to force dd to read Harry Potter and The Goblet of Fire, write her own stories, build and launch rockets with her dad, make up her own word/math problems, play her guitar, make her own chalk, playdough, and soap, read 9 of the 12 Magic Tree House Research Guides, etc. over the summer LOL. You seem to be forgetting that dd personally *chooses* and *directs* the majority of these Homeschooling Activities/Projects (which reminds me, I still have our Art, Music, and Social Studies outlines to post).

"The kids in our neighborhood spent the last two day catching frogs, much more fun than what you have laid out."

Clearly, "fun" is relative LOL.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Fri, 08-05-2005 - 10:38am

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I have answered this in post 937, but I will elaborate.


Wohm such as myself have been around for centuries supporting their families through varies means, although it hasn't always been easy as a women did not have many rights or options but they were allowed to be cooks, maids, barmaids, nannies, companions and there have been many a great woman who ruled entire countries or regions throughout history.

PumpkinAngel

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